I don't really think there is a right way of raising a kid. You have to go with your gut and even then it's not 100% sure.
I have two friends (twins) that were raised in the same house by the same people and the same way - one of them uses hard drugs and it's now in rehab the other is studying to become a surgeon. What is the diference? No one knows because up untill 2 years ago they were practicly the same person - same school, same friends, same lifestyle etc.
So if your kid is "bad" then it may not be your fault!