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in #life7 years ago (edited)

I believe in "drawing people out”.

That means, we poke them in the ribs a bit and see what they have to say...

just a little bit. 

Everybody gets to talk, we all share, we all live.


For a young person in this world, sometimes those “uncomfortable silences” require a ready toolbox, loaded and focused on bringing out people to be their most authentic selves; which is often when they will most enjoy themselves in the company of others.

If I offend someone (which I used to do sometimes; now I am more polished) I tell them:

 

“I am trying to draw you out. I am interested in what you have to say.”


Of course, there are any number of ways to do this; and you always want be smooth! 

-  My favorite: "YES!      But what do you really think?"

- Ask them if they believe their views are formed partially by where they live, or the community they live in.

- Ask if they have always felt this way, or did they used to feel differently about this issue.

- Be a good listener. Be ready to know more about them. This is the time when you might share something small about yourself, then probe for some great story they have to tell you.

- Ask if their views have changed since they gave up their hard drugs addiction. 

(Sorry, bad joke.)

- And even pretend you are interviewing them; and you will help them find things they are interested in to talk about. What they do, what they studied, anything they have written, invented, imagined.


I think you get the idea, and I feel this can be:

- a great party starter

- a great way to get your blind date talking

- a way to gain inroads with your new mother in law

- the best way, to talk with your mom, or father

- the best way, to talk to that special someone you have had your eye on for quite some time


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I actually prefer to write about the life of the world of children, because it always makes me happy. I also prefer to write about literature, though not very well understood. I just learned, and I want to write more about life.

Great writing! I like the idea that ask questions to lead the conversation, and let them speak about themselves! I will use that technics! Thanks!

I think we can have some fun on steemit ;-)

This post is fire haha. I love it.

It's interesting how we tend to hide what we really feel because of what people might think of us. Awesome tips for getting people out of their shells!

Just dig away; if they get pissed, tell them you are only having fun and "get loose".

you are able to communicate with yourself, and this is included in personal communication. keep my friends, I wait for other works.

WE WILL HAVE SOME FUN NOW!

Very interesting, is a form that I will take into account for a conversation

Every conversation you have, MUST BE BRILLIANT!

Brilliant and very interesting

It's interesting for thinking. Thank you!)

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Pretty interesting topic , it's like analyzing in your own opinions

So in short: Ask them questions to get them talking about theirselves.

Yes, but also:

  • tease them if they are obviously biased or whatever
  • when someone is not having a good time; inspire them
  • if someone is losing cool, find a calm rational transport to a new subject
  • if you really admire someone, you should always TELL THEM!

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