If you feel miserable because you did not wake up your wife ad you went to work there surely was somthing wrong with that relationship. To my opinion it is not okay to bother someone constantly because of your needs. It is also a deed of love to give a person the right to rest the right to spend time with yourself. Bothering/disturbing people to tell them you love them has nothing to do with love it self. Real love you can feel and is shown in many ways. This all besides of the fact there is only one thing for sure in this life and that is we will die. Apriciation can be shown in many ways as well. It is not about the way or frequency you do so but about the feeling/knowing. Btw many people are single and live their life alone, might be that phone is their way to get some aporeciation. Good post