RELATIONSHIP THAT LAST, DON’T JUST HAPPEN

                          

                       An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels. Prov 31:10

Rita was so confused and ached inside wondering why he was angry at her again while David silently stared at the television set. They had only been married for 2years and Rita could already see their relationship would soon join the millions of other couples whose marriage have ended up in divorce. Davis pls what is wrong, she asked after finally breaking the silence and without a response from him, deep down she was hurt. She asked again, his response so wounded her that she began to doubt her adequacy as a wife. 

David said, I am tired and confused of you taking everything so seriously and just too sensitive. Never would have married you if I had known you were this sensitive and emotional. He using such harsh words unknowingly has set their relationship on a destructive path leading to some very unattractive changes, which will likely lead to the ultimate separation or disintegration of their relationship .Like thousands of other husband have main problems like he does because he fails to understand and realize the essential and basic difference between the natures of men and women. Rita’s greatest strengths, her sensitivity and intuitive awareness of life has been taken by him and considered them weaknesses. The emotional and mental difference between men and women can become insurmountable obstacles to a lasting and fulfilling relationship when ignored or misunderstood. However, those same differences when recognized and appreciated can become stepping stones to a meaningful and fulfilling relationship.

                                                        

 Women have a tremendous advantage in life’s important areas. Loving God and loving others, having an ability to create meaningful relationship and a desire for intimate communication. When she understands her strengths for what they are and herself image will be practically indestructible no matter how her husband’s treat her. When both husband and wife understand each other and begin to react to one another, their relationship can blossom into the marriage they ever dreamed of. Rita can began to make David realize of her deepen needs for love, security and assurance without feeling selfish for desiring fulfillment of her needs .At the speed they are going, It probably won’t be long before they join the multitude of millions couples divorced. You will strengthen your marriage faster, if your husband is willing to work beside you. When a husband understands his wife needs and learns how to meet those needs, the marriage will grow more  faster.

 People marry before having the knowledge and skills needed to take care of their mates: to meet their emotional, physical and mental needs. Our society have shown that a person has to have four or more years of training and studying to receive a b.sc certificate, but absolutely no training is required for a marriage certificate and our educational system does not even require communication courses basic to the meaningful development of any relationship. Due to this, many women and men enter marriage with virtually no knowledge of how to meet the basic mental, physical and emotional needs of their mates.

 A man can be completely unaware of his wife’s sensitive nature. Things that are extremely most important to her like birthdays, holidays and anniversary, he considers trivial Because he does not know, also many men do not understand a woman’s physical changes and the hormonal changes she experience. Many women don’t understand that admiration is to a man what romance is to a woman and also that a man generally relies on reasoning rather than intuitive sensitivity. When both husband and wife lack vital knowledge to meet each other needs, their needs will go unmet and unsatisfied. I strongly believe the ideal that marriage rotates and evolves when the husband concentrates on meeting the needs of his wife and wife concentrates on meeting the needs of her husband. A lasting quality of a relationship is build on such a ground when combined.