Don’t Let Others Demotivate You Believe in Yourself.
Subtitle: Rise Above Doubt: Believe in Yourself and Silence the Naysayers
Weare consistently surrounded by many people offering various pieces of advice, opinions, and projections with regard to others. While these voices sometimes seem to be of encouragement, most times they will give you reasons and doubts regarding what you can possibly do.
That negativity is then amplified by trusted people. As important as people’s advice or opinions are sometimes, the ultimate motive behind success and failure lies entirely in your opinion of yourself. The truth of the matter is that only 5% out of 100 people really care about seeing you succeed. The remaining people either maliciously or from ignorance will call your bluff and discourage you and say that it’s too difficult to go in the direction that you want.
But here is the thing: success has nothing to do with how other people perceive your capability it’s about how you perceive yourself. I learned this the hard way personally.
Several years ago, I was considering moving to the United Kingdom. I wanted a better life, a brighter future with new opportunities for professional and academic growth. Nurturing instinct made me turn to the first person whom I could trust that was my friend who had been living in the UK for over seven years. I was thinking that he could be of use at least to let me know how nice it was. But this was not quite encouraging. He said that life is too hard and you won’t make it. Things are too difficult to handle here, and you’ll be sorry for this life so don’t come here he kept repeating this. Initially, he made me feel uncertain and a little disappointed by his words. Could it be that bad as he said? Should I abandon my dream simply because someone told me it was tough? Then suddenly, a thought came to me: if life in the UK was so unbearably hard, why the f***k is he still there? Why is he not leaving from there then? What’s keeping him there in a place he described as nearly impossible to live in?
One day after all the discussion with my friend I was lying in bed, puffing cigarette and started thinking on whatever he said. What is the difference between him and me? We have the same body, the same brain, and the same ability to deal with the conditions. He did not have anything that would have made him a privileged child for surviving those “tough” conditions. Therefore, why was I having all those doubts about myself? If he could make it, then why not me? This is one of the greatest lessons in human nature taught to me by this, which is that most people discourage others not to hurt them but out of projecting their fears and insecurities to other people. It is easier than saying, “Don’t do it to support them as they pursue the dreams that they perhaps did not muster enough courage for.
In reality, though it’s your journey. People are going to have opinions, but their words don’t define your potential. You decide how far you go. If you let other people’s doubts dictate the choices that you are going to make, you will never leave your comfort zone. Growth will forever be out of your reach. Think of all the people you admire and who you think have been successful. Bill Gates, Elon Musk, Oprah Winfrey none of them had some magical quality or car nitro in their minds to achieve success. They began as ordinary human beings just like you and me with 24 hours in a day. What made them successful was determination, focus, and not letting other people’s doubts stop them. I wouldn’t let anyone’s opinions deter me from reaching my goals. Always there will be those voices of warning and telling you that it is impossible, too big of a risk, or simply not worth doing. Forget those. Your life is yours alone; the only one you must believe in is you. Recognition also comes from people who wish the best for you. Here, one has in mind your parents. No prayer is greater than that of a mother’s, and no dream is sweeter than the wish of a father for his children. A mother beams with joy from the bottom of her heart whenever she sees her child succeed. A father dreams for his child to reach heights that he could not even imagine himself. Just as a father takes his child up on his shoulders to see above the horizon, parents strive for a brighter future for their children.
Their unwavering support reminded me that no one understands your potential better than you and your parents.
If you have a dream, go for it do not let anyone tell you it is impossible. The opportunities are in full abundance out there your journey is yours alone. Only you have to trust yourself and don’t forget that with the hard work and determination you can do anything.
Believe in yourself 💪🏻✌🏻