SLC-S29/W1-Mind & Learn : The Psychology Journey "Control Your Emotions"

To avoid emotional stress everyone need a peaceful environment and you can create that for yourself. I'm very excited that I'm doing this journaling now, because seriously I'm working on my emotions.

So I would say that this contest came as a therapy for me. Let's just go straight to the contest because I have a lot of things to write about.

Task 01 Journaling (Control Your Emotions)

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Date: 16 January, 2026

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Title: A Mistake that taught me wisdom

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Story

I am always very emotional and I do put people's interest ahead of mine making sure that they are fine even if it has to hurt me while making them fine but as long as I put a smile on people's face, I'm always happy.

So today while dropping my daughter off at school, I met a young lady who is my colleague, she approached me and requested some help from me. The same help I gave someone sometime last year, that has caused me a lot of pains and feelings of regret.

So I remembered everything how it happened, I lended someone some money to fix some life challenging issues and it was about $2000 to $3000. I was happy doing this because giving makes me happy. But the only mistake I did was that I didn't tell my husband before carrying out this decision. This was a huge mistake which almost affected my marriage but I'm grateful, he is an understanding person.

So as at the time the money was to be refunded, I didn't have it, and so suddenly excuses upon excuses until date I haven't received it. At a point of lending this money, I didn't really had anything on me that was all I had at that point. So I gave it out without considering any possible effects that could cause me. The money was actually for a project of which till now I have not accomplished that project and as a result of this, I have lost a whole lot of things.

Before you knew it I found myself in a very huge mess, yes life happens to me but I couldn't get out of it, I tried all possible ways but still couldn't strike a balance.

I didn't have any agreement written down, I trusted the person so much that there won't be any disappointments but then I was seriously disappointed which left a caption in my heart that 2025 was a mess up year for me.

I felt as if that was the end of my life, I was depressed, hurt but couldn't do anything.

So let go back to what happens today, after paying attention to this lady, I remembered everything that happens as they are still fresh in my memory. After remembering all this, I told her I need to think about it, at first I wanted to give her a reply but then I thought of how this reply will look like, it's could hurt her. Thereabouts what if I feel remorse after giving this lady this reply, she wasn't the one that hurt me she is also in a needy situation.

Thought

I regretted everything but then what if I didn't gave it out? Would I have been happy with my life? Would that my project have worked out? Why will I use my feelings to punish another person? I should not stop being kind to people because of some responses I got from others. So what if this lady is truly in need and I have it then I refuse to give her what if something terrible that has to do with loss of life happens will I forgive myself?

As I got back to my place of work I put a call across to my husband telling him what happened and he approved it so I called the lady and gave her a positive reply to what she requested, she was really happy.

Therefore, giving out what I had at that time to help someone with life challenges wasn't a mistake, I did the right thing. So in any situation I find myself the rights thing has to be done.

Lessons;

This year, I've chosen peace over any fight, I've chosen silent over any form of arguments and I've chosen wisdom over reaction of any kind. My lessons, do whatever it pleases me as long as it will give me peace of mind. When making a decision, think over it perhaps use wisdom in dealing with humans. Rather than starting unnecessary arrangements, remain silent and walk away for peace to reign.

Develop a charity mentality rather than giving out and expecting something in return. Then I should not forget that giving meds me happy especially when it has to do with life I should reach out and do the needful.

Task 02: Mind Setup (Reading a Book)

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Mind setup, take a favorite book, continue reading on a topic and write in detail about that topic after finishing the reading. Let us know what book you are reading and take a picture.

Name of the Book: Your family can be happy

Topic Read: How to keep peace with relatives

Maintaining peace among relative while married is one of the challenging thing that people do face. And this usually affect the wife emotionally especially if her in-laws does not appreciate her.

This book your family can be happy say it all, it gives directions or would I say guide on how to maintain peace between relatives and in-laws

Talking about emotions, dealing with in-laws is another draining emotional stress that most women encounter is keeping peace with in-laws

Some lessons I learned

• This book suggests you and your spouse set boundaries and lovingly tell them about it.

• Being humble, patience and love will help you continue keeping peace with your relatives.

• Even when they seems to make decisions for you in your marriage, be careful with your words to them, rather discuss it together with your spouse and have a solid agreement.

• In conclusion the whole thing lies in the hands of the couple, discuss things together, treat your relatives with love and show humility to them.

Read the story mentioned above and express your own opinion

Life is one of those things that can never be treated for anything It should be valued. But then out of greed from riches, Harun Chowdhury betrayed an agreement they had with his community and made a decision that cost even his only child death.

So this is how greed, lack of empathy or personal feelings and misuse of power can ruin a society with just a twinkle of an eye.

• The leaders in power; they were busy fighting among themselves over dominance which leads to the suffering of ordinary citizens. They would have dropped their pride and unite together, protecting their citizens, they would have cooperated to make things easy during the famine for the citizens.

• Kibria Ahmed; was courageous and lead the protest, but had it been he did that earlier, things wouldn't have gone wrong to this extent.

• Harun Chowdhury’s; he failed greatly, betrayed his people, inflated prices on food and other items, he prioritize wealth over humans sufferings. He was heartless, within a short time he receives his consequences. He lost his child due to his greed.

But he should have done differently assuming he worked with the agreement, had empathy, showed genuine love for others, this would have soften the famine.

His emotions changes from greed and pride to fear, being remorseful and depressed.

My lessons; having personal interests for others is very essential in humanity. Then I also learn that abandoning compassion can lead to a serious helpless condition we couldn't think of. So I should be compassionate, money is not everything, love for people, fellow feelings can maintain a long lasting peace within humans.

Create an infographic on the five steps of emotion control.

Design with canva

My infographics showing the 5 steps of controlling emotions. I personally used this opportunity to revamp my emotional skills to help with my present situation.

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