SLC-S29/W3-Mind & Learn : The Psychology Journey "Anger Control"
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Anger is one of those things that we can never avoid as a human, as long as you have that imperfect quality in us, you are likely going to get angry over what a fellow human do to you.
But then, there are ways we cannot find anger there are ways we can also control our anger. Because anger if not controlled can cause a serious chronic illness or can make you depressed for years.
So let's go on let's see how to control anger yeah there are some techniques to do so.
Describe your techniques for controlling anger and emotions. What is your reaction in that moment when you get excessively angry?
First I will try to recall my emotional triggers then take a deep breath, pause and quickly avoid reacting. Then when I remind myself the effects of reacting wrongly, I leave the scene immediately.
In most cases depending on the scenario, I do stop asking where I'm wrong? Why it happened? Why I didn't react? Avoiding thinking about this questions helps me control my anger as well.
Then when I'm very angry maybe I'm a conversation it always results in a shaking voice and a deep cry, so in situations like this, I stop talking, take a breath and avoid talking about that aspect again. Doing this prevent me from saying aggressive words that I will later regret.
Another quick one I do often when I'm angry is to keep silent for a long time, I avoid talking, I even avoid the person or thing that makes me angry. Till when I'm calm, then I can talk to you but on another topic not the same that makes me angry.
I try to forgive quickly and let it go so as to avoid creating scenes or saying things I will later regret, so I keep silence and moved on.
This part I like it so much and I do it often, I smile and leave the scene immediately.
Generally, if I'm angry, it triggers ulcer, raise BP (Blood pressure) so I always try as much as possible to avoid anything that will trigger anger and take away my peace of mind.
Perform a progressive muscle relaxation exercise, record a video, and write in detail how effective it is for you
Pls watch the video
I sat on a chair comfortably in a very quiet environment with my eyes closed. Then I started by breathing in and out with my mouth open, then I tensed the muscle of my hand slowly for a about 5 seconds while breathing.
I made a fist 👊 hold it very tight, hold it for few seconds then release it, flex my elbow bringing them to my shoulders while still holding the fist and breathing freely.
I also roll my neck round gently, I keep rotating for some seconds.
Benefits of the exercise
So when the muscle is relaxation progressively through this exercise it was very effective for me. I noticed that my thoughts became calmer and my breathe became deeper and slower as well. I felt relieved and relaxed. I also felt relieved in physical tension.
There will be a short story, read the story and express your own thoughts.
In this story, narrates a natural anger issue resulting to destruction as it wasn't controlled.
Mr Dipak in the story had a comfortable life status, a good job, highly respected in the society, wealthy but yet he had a very serious anger issues that he didn't control. He had a very serious emotional issues that wasn't controlled and he poured the a ger to his wife at home each day.
It became a daily routine till the children observed and imitated him, they live angrily with their teachers and classmates at school. It continues gradually till he finally resulted in physical abuse with the wife.
On this day, he beat the wife uncontrollably till he hit her head and she died. At that point he realised himself and the consequences but at this time, it was too late for him. He regretted his actions and his children became traumatized for a lifetime.
This shows that anger and violence are contagious, it affects the people watching to act same. Anger can destroy life and future in a moment.
My thoughts
The wife should have had a way of talking to the husband to seek for help. Atleast he was respected in the society therefore, she should have reached out to authorities about the abuse.
The man should have also seek for help in controling anger and listen to advice.
Marriage is not a bondage but a union that needs to be enjoyed, it is a teamwork that needs the cooperation of all family members.
The kids as well would have reported their dad's actions and seek for help so as they would be fine but they didn't observe and even think of any way of helping their parent.
Do not do more than yourself, don't please people outside and displeases your family, do not transfer aggression to your family members as well, always learn to control anger, think about the effect or consequences, talk to others for help on how to control anger.
Create an infographic on the five steps of anger control
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Thank you for going through my post, I believe you have learn something, yes I've learn too and will make adjustments, so let's find time and talk to ourselves about anger issues.
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