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RE: Learning to allow and enjoy sexual touch
Thank you for this brave post. Many people don't know that some men have exactly the same fears and confusions.
Thank you for this brave post. Many people don't know that some men have exactly the same fears and confusions.
Thank you for reading. It was difficult to write, more so than I thought. I really think we should talk about this more often!
It's almost impossible to talk about in our society.
For me, talking about it triggers the whole PTSD thing. I was almost put off by your first sentences. The sexual abuse I was subjected to by my mother has ruined three marriages and several relationships. The last one when my ex laughed at me for revealing my fears and told me that men are never abused. I just couldn't have sex with her after that. Dead stop. I've even had a shrink tell me I was just wrong, that it didn't happen. Makes it difficult.
I am so sorry that you were abused and that your ex laughed at you. That is completely not okay. Not at all. I do not understand why medical professionals also feel it is okay to erase someone's experience. Gaslighting has no place in therapy unless it is being undone.
I believe you. Let's start there. I hope you find a partner who is patient and compassionate. You deserve love, compassion and understanding.