SLC-S29/W1-Mind & Learn : The Psychology Journey "Control Your Emotions"

Most times, silence is always the best answer when terrible situations arise. Silence prevents certain things from happening, but that's not how people of the world view silence. They feel you're the foolish one when you're silent. You're weak, can't act, can't do anything, and can't display authority. They feel you've backed down from a seemingly small case. Silence too isn't all that good, but is needed in some circumstances.

Because a lady who didn't bargain with the taxi man on how much she's going to pay didn't give the man his complete money, this man took a hammer from his Bus and stabbed the woman on her head. How? The woman wasn't talking calmly and he felt that a woman can't talk to him disrespectfully in the midst of people. So his anger grew to the point that it burst. The lady was taken to the hospital and the driver to pay her hospital bills. Before he could realize how far his anger had taken him, it was already too late.

My experience

Title

Most times, silence wards off uncontrolled anger and wretched actions.

Story

On a Saturday evening when I stepped out with my friends to enjoy life, we bought dog meat with plantain and ate. I took pictures of this dog meat and posted it on our group chat. Others in the group chat were annoyed and started attacking me with words. I wasn't myself at that moment. I was just so engulfed with the fun I was having that I didn't just want anything to bother me much.

Now as I dropped the pictures of the dog meat we ate as instructed by the admin, this same set of people who are my juniors came and said a lot of messy things. They said I was prideful by doing so and that I'm doing a showy display because others can't afford that meal. Like how? I started addressing them mildly by correcting them playfully. It was getting hot to the extent that some said I was a graduate, but my brain didn't graduate as well.

This was so painful that I thought of exchanging words that would have hurt their emotions, but I asked myself, I'm a graduate. Following my juniors to banter words is a waste of time and would only bring reproach on me. Does not responding mean I've given up and that I'm stupid? My body was just itching me to say words that would hurt these people emotionally.

I just had to correct them, but the more I corrected them, the more insults came, and it was in a public group. I thought of silence as the best answer to a fool, but what if keeping silent makes me the fool?

Thoughts:

Most times silence is always the best answer. In this situation, it was the best for me because if I had responded according to how they insulted me, I would have mentioned their parents, of whom I knew some of them are late. I would have said things like, I'm very sure your father doesn't know your other side, because if he knows, he'll disown you and you'll become a wayward child for life. If I had blotted all of these out, it would have affected a lot of people, and the guilt would have fallen back on me. I asked myself, was it worth my time when I had trades to check? I just went offline to avoid saying things I shouldn't have said.

Lessons

Maturity is when you overlook unnecessary things and not allow them to mold you. There are certain things you shouldn't follow squarely, as you may end up being the fool or doing something you'll forever regret in life. So I've learnt that there's a time to speak and a time to remain silent and this really helps to control anger. If that man mentioned earlier had overlooked that woman's words, he wouldn't have used a hammer on her. Now he's paying bills he never dreamt of, and he'll have to marry the woman. Just imagine.

The book I picked goes by the name Young People Ask. This book is for teenagers and young adults who are battling a lot of challenges in their youthful stage. It's also for grown-ups but mostly for youths. It's a book with biblical advice on how one can deal with the opposite sex, life challenges, friendship issues, school and peers, parents, money matters, feelings, recreation, and the like.

The topic I chose is similar to the one from this challenge

My thoughts are as follows: It's actually normal for someone to get angry or sad over a situation. It's not bad, but the way we react to what causes this anger can be bad. The illustration given in the book is—is fire good or bad? It depends on the circumstances, as one would need fire to cook and warm himself during a cold winter night. But if the fire is not controlled, it can spread and consume the entire house. So fire or anger is not bad. It's how we respond to or control this anger.

The book gives a series of helpful tips that can help one control the emotions of being angry. It states that uncontrolled anger can cause us to take actions we'll later regret in life. To avoid this, we must analyze the situation squarely and see if we can settle the matter in our heart. It also states that paying injury for injury won't soften issues but only make them worse.

We'll be dying inside while still holding on to that anger. It states that if you let yourself be consumed with resentment, you become as helpless as a hooked fish. In time, we'll learn to control our emotions so that our emotions don't control us. You can read this book online, as it has interesting questions like

• How can I avoid homosexuality?

• How can I keep my mind off sex?

• How can I deal with loneliness?

• Am I ready to date?

It's funny how this turns out to affect everyone, as they would have all done better. Let's start with the powerful people of the city. They were busy fighting and allowed greed and pride to allow them to ignore that the ordinary people were suffering. They would have cooperated and used their power to protect and not compete.

As for Harun the businessman, he betrayed the agreement he once accepted because he believed money could solve everything, even by buying people's hearts. This was so bad. He would have done better by honoring the agreement of the people, thus helping the society at large instead of exploiting them.

The ordinary people didn't die in silence at first. At least, the voice is out, which means silence is strength sometimes. Kibria was a leader. He did good, no doubt, but would have done better. Punishment isn't anger. It's justice. The doctors made their emotions control them, and they allowed someone to die because of another person's mistake, just to teach that person a lesson. How sad that everything just revolved around.

In any situation we find ourselves whether in a community setting, rulership, school, work or family, we should always try to control our emotions and leave the rest for the God of justice. It's better we play our own part and nothing faulty is found in us than yo regret a lifetime.

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So I decided to create an infographic using my own pictures and how this relates to me the most. I invite @lunasilver, @shahidalinaz and @lilly1