Understanding is necessary before judging.

Assalamu Alaikum. How are you all? I hope you are all well. A saying has been going around in my head for a long time. Today I thought I would write something about it. The saying is, "To criticize, you can do it from the outside, but to judge, you have to go inside." The more I read the saying, the more I feel that there are many realities of life hidden in it.

We all talk about other people's lives more or less. Sometimes intentionally, sometimes unintentionally. Walking on the street, at work, or in a chat with friends—it doesn't take us very long to comment on a person. But I have noticed one thing, most of the time we see the person, not their story.

A few years ago, I misunderstood a person I knew very much. I didn't like some of his behavior. I thought he was arrogant, didn't listen to anyone. Later one day, I had the opportunity to talk to him for a long time. Then I found out that he was going through some family problems that I had never imagined. I was ashamed of myself that day. Because I never tried to peek into his life before judging him.

To be honest, it is very easy to judge someone from a distance. We consider what we see to be the whole truth. However, there are many chapters in a person's life that no one outside knows. Behind someone's smile, there may be pain, behind someone's anger, there may be disappointment, and behind someone's silence, there may be thousands of unspoken words.

Now is the time of social media. Here, it has become even easier to judge people. By looking at a picture, a status, or a few seconds of video, we can even determine a person's character. However, the reality may be completely different.

I think that trying to understand people is a very great quality. Not everyone can do that. Because you have to give time to understand, be patient, and most importantly, put your own ego aside. If we learn to imagine ourselves in someone else's place, then maybe many relationships can be saved before breaking up.

These days I try not to make hasty decisions about anyone. Because life has taught me that what is visible to the eye is not everything. There are many truths that cannot be seen from the outside. And it is not fair to judge someone without knowing those unseen truths.

So now it seems that condemning is an easy task, but judging fairly is much more difficult. Because to judge, you have to enter into a person's life, listen to their unspoken words, try to feel their suffering. And that is perhaps the identity of true humanity.

Thank you all. I am ending here today. May everyone be well and think at least once before judging a person without knowing their story.