Contest Alert : Marriage pressure
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🍀.What is marriage pressure?
Marriage pressure is a strange situation called stress,expectation and it is said that it is about spitting out your desire on others or hoping that other people will get married quickly.In which people, culture, society, all these people are involved and they have full honesty that the people we are hoping for should get married quickly. This is a big problem that no matter how much we talk about it, it is less. As soon as we cross the teenage or reach 20, the problem of marriage starts. Whenever I call the society, it is said that 20 is the age to get married. Children get married at 20 or 21 years old. While my eldest daughter is 25 years old at the moment, I still do not force her at all about her marriage and do not put pressure on her because I know that she is free to decide her life and she has still said that she has not found a better boy for her marriage and the day she finds one, she will definitely get married. If you do, then I think it is not necessary for you to get married quickly, but it is more important to get married with a better one.
🍀.Why do you think people pressure others into marriage against their wish?
I see this idea in a way that people who are like your parents , they want that you too be happy and had a partner, they thought they are elder and you are not eligible to think about your future or they want that if we get married, he/she shouldn't remain single. It's not like that. Rather, parents who are like that and they have pressure from them, then they try to make sure that my son or daughter settles down quickly so that they know that they need a partner in life. They forget that his/her career or studies are also important for him/her. They are just looking at the physical support, so they think that he/she needs a partner. And if we talk about society, I don't understand society at all because society shows you different relationships because they think that if you are in a relationship, you will be good, and if you are not in a relationship, then I think you will not be good in their eyes. So I don't think that society interferes in your life is much important.
🍀.Do you think people should marry because of pressures from different angles?
Generally, I have seen this and this is what has happened that people who are under pressure get their children married very early because I have seen that most of this behavior is done by the parents or grandparents. They think that they will see their great-grandchildren get married before they die, so they put a lot of pressure on their younger family members that they should get their children married. But getting married increases their problems a lot and the lives of the children are at a crossroads where they have to choose between a career and marriage. Children choose marriage for the happiness of their family. I do not prefer this at all. You are free to take your own decision. Life is full of decision and you have to take it. It is in your hands how you want to live your life. It is your right to take the best decision, not your parents or grandparents.if they really love you they definitely support you in every way.
🍀.What are the dangers of marriage pressure?
🍀.The most dangerous thing about marriage is that it increases your stress level and after that you get depressed and things don't seem clear to you and then your mind keeps burning with that pressure for 24 hours.
🍀. And then in a hurry,you decision lead you to wrong way sometimes because we are rushing and in one meeting we decide that this person is the best person for my life and after marriage you realize how different the ways of living are between you and him.
🍀. The pressure exerted by society and family will never make you feel happy and peaceful with your partner because you have made the decision with the approval of others, not of your own free will.
🍀.What is your advice to someone going through marriage pressure right now?
I will always advise these children who are going through this pressure:
Advice.
I know very well how they make decisions when they come under pressure. Life is a very sweet gift that God has given us and what is in it is finding your love and getting married. This is another gift that God has given you. I always tell my children the same and I would like to say that whatever parents, siblings, etc. are, God provides for you. But a life partner that it comes to you by itself and it is up to you to decide when to marry him or her and when not. Therefore, when God has given you this right you need to take your decision on your own and without any pressure because if you are in this world, it is the job of people from all over the world to keep scolding you or harassing you, but it is up to you whether you have to think about your own happiness or about making others happy and marriage is beautiful relationship of two souls , do it when you want and make your life heaven.
Is good to follow your heart when making a decision on when are ready to get married than to let your family members or society to put you under pressure.
Speaking about marriage pressure, it’s very common in my country. It’s more pronounced among ladies, but even for men—especially if you’re the only male child—you face a lot of pressure from your parents. They believe you are the one who must carry on the family name, while the women will eventually get married and take their husband’s surname.
Thanks for the post, I really learned a lot..