Hello friends, I hope everyone is well and healthy. By the grace of God, I am also well. Today I am participating in a contest. The contest name is Love For Parents organized by @afrinn . Thank you for organizing the beautiful contest.

✅ How do parents influence our lives?

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Parents are the closest people to the child. For parents, a child means a dream of a beautiful future. The child will grow up; learn to read and write, become a man; get a job; and take care of the house.
Parents play a major role in the complete development of a child. From walking to talking, discipline, studying, and completing household chores, their parents' encouragement inspires them. How will you treat your child? Remember, your child's future depends on your behavior.

✅ What are the responsibilities and duties of parents towards their children?

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Children are a gift from Allah Ta'ala to their parents. Their eyes are cool and their hearts are at peace because of children. However, they should be aware of raising their children as ideal human beings.

➤ Parents' primary responsibilities to their children are as follows:

• Immediately after birth, give the call to prayer in a soft voice in the right ear and the Ikamat in the left ear.
• Give them a beautiful name.
• Perform two goats for the Aqiqah for a boy and one for a girl.
• Feed the child exclusively for two years. * Provide for the child's upbringing and foot the bill. * Give more importance to bearing the expenses of the girl child.
• Teach religion.
• Treat children well and be affectionate.
• Maintain equality and justice for all children.
• Arrange marriage if marriage is suitable.

➤ Parents' Responsibilities to Their Children:

• Praise them at the right time, more or less:

You have to decide what kind of encouragement to give for a task. Many times, parents do not notice this. A child develops mental weakness if he performs well but is not acknowledged in any way. If your child makes a mistake, do not criticize him, but explain it to him nicely. If you dwell on the child's flaws, he will fail to stand up for himself in the future. However, be careful that excessive praise is also harmful to the child. Excessive praise leads the child astray. Praise only as much as is needed, more or less. None.

• Sometimes act like a teacher:

In the era of satellites, your child may want to watch a movie that he should not watch. He may say that his friends are also watching these, so why can't he watch them? You guide him directly. If you give in at first, his needs will increase and he will soon be ruined. Only if your child is old enough to understand and has the intelligence to question the rules, then show him the reason.

• Never get excited:

Never shout while talking to your child. If they fight among themselves, explain to him in a calm but firm voice. Do not scold your child if he cries. Your behavior is ingrained in his soft mind. Remember that talking to children in an excited manner creates adverse reactions in the child's mind.

• Develop a child with personality:

Your own personality can give your child personality. Prevent him from bad habits like keeping a dirty face, quarreling with others, poking his nose in others' affairs. If he makes a mistake, point it out and teach him how to correct it. Teach him manners like exchanging greetings with peers by saying 'hello', greeting elders, expressing regret by saying 'sorry' if he makes a mistake. Make him aware about the cleanliness of his clothes. Teach him how to lie down and sit up.

• Choose any preferred technique:

Children are imitators. If they learn something, they learn by watching. Whatever you do, your child will also try to do. They will also become disciplined as they observe your sense of discipline. If you lose your temper, your child will also try to be like you. So choose a technique yourself, from which your child will get the opportunity to develop himself like you.

• Forget about punishment:

Many parents punish their children, this is not at all appropriate. Children do not understand what is right and what is wrong. You teach them. Punishing children is counterproductive. Do not beat your child. Renowned psychiatrist James Windell says, ‘There is no mistake for which children cannot be punished. But you should always treat your child in a nice, humane and forgiving way.’
If you have to punish a child, punish him in another way instead of beating him. For instance, if your child misses the bus while he is on his way to school, give him more homework at night. You will see that he will try to catch the school bus early from the next day due to the fear of studying too much.

• Encourage the child to play sports:

The body stays fresh in sports. The child's laziness will be overcome if you encourage him to play sports. Exercise is necessary for good health. Playing sports is a great exercise.

• Give rewards for good deeds:

If your child does something good, reward him for it. You can buy him a nice book, ice cream or a nice dress. This will create enthusiasm in him. He will become motivated to work. * Teach cleanliness:
When to give your child a bath and when to wash his hands and feet? Ask him to brush his teeth twice in the morning and at night. Ask him to cut his nails, warn him not to get dirt on his nails. Ask him to keep his bathroom clean. Make separate bathrooms for boys and girls.

• Help your child to be tolerant:

Teach your child to be tolerant. If he misbehaves with someone, explain it to him. Tell him to keep a cool head at all times. Teach him to be wise so that others can learn from him. Your support will keep your children calm. When they know that you are by their side, they will feel great. Every parent should keep an eye on their child.

✅ How should we behave towards parents?

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Parents are like the shade of a banyan tree for a child. The most beloved to every person in this world is his mother and father. The father who gave birth to me, worked day and night to make me a human being, the mother who breastfed me, washed my excrement-stained clothes, raised me with great affection despite great hardship, those parents can never be forgotten. No one can forget. Even the conscience of a person without conscience will not let him forget his mother.

Here are some simple examples of the ways to love parents more and show them due respect:

➤ Love parents:

Celebrating love with parents. Expressing kind feelings in meeting, talking to parents and doing things. Reminiscing about the childhood of parents with the child and expressing genuine love for them.

➤ Praying regularly for parents:

Praying for parents all the time. Praying regularly to Allah with both hands raised.

➤ Giving them time:

Spend time with your parents. Give your parents time. No matter how busy you are with your personal, family or work, give your parents time in the midst of this busyness. Give them enough time to keep them happy while talking to your parents.

➤ Taking advice:

Take your parents' advice or counsel on every aspect of your personal, family or work life. Because your parents may have good advice on these matters, which can enlighten your child's life. When you ask your parents for advice, they are happy and pray for your child from the bottom of their hearts.

➤ Being patient with them in old age:

When your parents reach old age, be patient with them. Because when your child was a child, they would ask their parents about whatever they saw. At that time, the parents would not get annoyed by the child's questions and would try to answer them patiently. When the child was in his teenage years, the parents were patient and did not get angry with the child's anger. Therefore, the child should be patient with the parents when they reach old age. This is what the parents deserve from the child.

➤ Living with parents:

By living with the parents, gift them new things. By spending happy times with them, keep them cheerful. It is the child's sole duty to serve them and put a smile on their faces. And only if this is done properly, the child's love and respect for the parents will be revealed.

➤ Talking regularly:

If the parents are not around, talk to them several times a day. This makes them happy, and they feel calm when they talk to the child.

➤ Paying attention to them:

When the parents are around, take more care of them. Paying deep attention to them. Pay attention to good relations with them in matters of work, pleasure, sports, worship, etc.

➤ Giving charity for parents:

Giving money to the poor and helpless for parents. Money can also be donated to service organizations. So that parents can receive the reward of charity in the hereafter.

May Allah Ta'ala grant the Muslim Ummah the ability to fulfill their responsibilities towards their parents. Grant them the ability to show respect and love for them. Grant them the ability to pray and give charity for them. Amen.

✅ How has the role of parents changed in today's society?

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➤ Separation of parents:

The biggest impact of parental separation is the breakdown of the child's mental stability. The child suddenly sees two loved ones in different positions. He blames himself repeatedly for this breakup. A kind of guilt develops in his mind. Which can turn into depression, anxiety and lack of confidence.
If he doesn't get one of the parents after the separation, the child develops insecurity. Many times he may sink into loneliness, depression or anger. Some children may become quiet. Some others start showing aggressive behavior.
If there are problems in the family, it also becomes difficult for the child to concentrate on his studies. Due to the separation of the parents, he may be so mentally disturbed that his performance in school studies and exams starts to deteriorate. Many may even drop out of school life.

➤ Not giving enough time:

The reason for increasing distance is the busyness of the parents at work and addiction to social media. Parents can make up for the lack of time spent at work by spending more quality time. Additionally, if they spend more time on social media, their children will do the same, and they will not receive adequate care and attention. Therefore, they need to rein in their own addiction and encourage their children to exercise 'self-control' in these matters.
Young people spend time on social media and the internet in their free time, and this rate is much higher among educated youth. Young people blame the lack of opportunities to engage in sports and educational activities for this. However, many other factors, including peer pressure, lack of healthy entertainment, lack of supervision and monitoring by parents and teachers, are also responsible.

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