How I survived a difficult moment

Difficult moments are always sort of our lives, some very serious and some mild. Join me as I talk about a difficult moment of my life, how I survived it, what I did and didn’t do and my advice to people going through difficult moments.

Share with us a difficult moment in your life you faced

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Tough times they say do not last but tough people do and as long as we are alive, we would always encounter difficulties. How we handle these moments make a lot of difference.

One of the most difficult moment I encountered in my life that I do not wish to relish again or even pray for my enemy to have such was the year I lost a lot of money to Ponzi scheme.

I had entered that year with this superior feeling that it was my year to be a millionaire. Everything within me just knew it was my year.

I had gotten a hundred thousand Naira from my aunty after I told her about my financial state. I wanted to invest this money for monthly returns in a business that was being run by one of my colleagues.

I went ahead to borrow five hundred thousand Naira from someone with the promise to pay interest in three months. I invested all these money in two separate businesses only for me to start hearing stories after two weeks.

All that money was gone in a twinkle of an eye. The two business crashed and I was back to square zero. The most bizzare nightmare is that the money wasn’t mine. Where would I start from?

How did you survive that moment? Tell us what you did or did not do

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I was preparing to talk to a group of students when I saw a notification that the site where I had invested the money wasn’t opening again.

I went ahead to finish the talk. I do not know how I mange to be standing before them talking for over an hour because I was feeling like fainting.

Reality hit me so much that my entire being was shaking. I cried like a river and I didn’t know where to start from. I felt like the ground should open up and swallow me. Both my own money and the one borrowed was gone with the wind.

I couldn’t eat for days, I fell sick. I was contemplating suicide. I thought up, I thought down. I finally was talking to so many people to help me give me money to put in another business So that I can be able to pay back.

I was able to pay back some of the old money but the new money too got lost as the person who was helping to do business with it died. My life was turned upside down.

I had to beg the first perosn I was owing to forgive me the debt that even if he sold me and my entire possessions, I can’t raise the money. He was merciful to forgive me. Infact the two of them forgave me the debt and that’s how I was able to survive that season.

These lingered for months and those months were a hell of experience. I am still indebted to those two beautiful souls till tomorrow.

What your advice for any one going through a difficult time right now?

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My advice would be to pray first. I remember praying over and over for God to have mercy on me. The prayers helped to abate the suicide thoughts. God always have away of helping us when we ask him to.

Ask for help of others who can help you in one way or the other. A problem shared they said is half solved. The person may not proffer solutions but having someone to share our problems with helps to relive tension and stress.

Sometimes they have the capability to help us aside listening alone as was my case. I would have probably died alone if I had kept it to myself. Just ensure to talk to matured people who won’t use it as an avenue to get back at you.

Above all be strong and optimistic, know that it just for a season and the difficult times also have expiring time. It would also pass as it’s just a phase. So resilience and determination to pull through goes along way to help through that difficult season.