In the Midst of Disappointment

Think of watching football match with full joy, and your team lead 2–0, you have already celebrated, shouting “we have win!” And suddenly in the last ten minutes, opponent score two goals back-to-back, and the match ended draw. That's a pure disappointment. All the happiness which you had will just vanish, you will be looking at the TV like as if it offended you.

Disappointment is that bitter taste which life can give a person when what you expect don't show. The process when your mind is high of hope, waiting for better thing, but it's the opposite you will see. It just like when you wait for rain to cool the weather in rainy season, but instead sun begin to shine and the weather hot more. Disappointment is the gap between what you plan and what reality gives you.

Therefore disappointment is something which everybody have faced before. It can be painful than pepper in the eyes. Sometimes it makes a person weak, sometimes it makes a person angry, sometimes it can even make a person to cry. But the truth is that disappointment is part of life which nobody can dodge it.

Everybody have faced disappointment before. Me too have faced it. One time, I was expecting salary from work in month end as usual, also planning how I will use it to buy shoe and pay my rent. And in month end my boss said that “company is facing challenges, I'll pay next month.” That month I really suffer. That heartbreak was a disappointment that cut really deep.

Disappointment do come from different corner:

• Family which don't agree to support your dream.

• Friends which do promise but don't deliver.

• Government which do talk big but don't act.

• Even from yourself, when you fail exam or miss opportunity.

Disappointment is really hard to deal with because it just touches hope directly. Human being do survive on hope. So hope do make a person to wake up every morning, hustle, and full of dream. When disappointment comes, it can scatter that hope like a breeze that blows candle.

Another reason is that disappointment do remind us that we don't have power to control life to the finish. We all know that life is tough already, so when disappointment join, it feels like a double problem. Imagine a person which always hustle everyday, expecting small breakthrough, only for disappointment to come. That's why many people feel broken.

If someone disappoint you once, you might fear to trust him again. If life disappoint you, you might fear to dream big again. It's that fear that make it hard to deal with.

Disappointment won't finish or end , but we can learn how to handle it.

• Don't put all your hope for one basket: If you are expecting a job, prepare that it might not work. Have about two to three other options Incase one doesn't work. That way, if disappointment comes, it won't break you completely.

• Learn lesson from it: Every disappointment carry message. If a person disappoint you, you will know who truly is your friend. If life disappoint you, you will know that you need plan B or C.

• Talk about it: We are all strong, but sometimes we do hide pain. If disappointment catch you, talk to a person which you trust. Sharing could reduce the weight.

• Just Keep moving: Disappointment is like pothole we see on the road on our journey. So if you just stop right there, you won't reach your destination. Therefore walk pass it, and just continue with your journey.

• Hold on to God: Try to hold your faith strong. When disappointment comes, prayer do give hope. The belief that tomorrow will be better can help a person to survive today.

So in all let's know that disappointment is part of life which can teach us patience, resilience, and having wisdom. It's painful, but it could also shape us. Life is not easy, but we will still push. So next time disappointment knock at the door, we should try our best not to allow it to break us. Remember that it's a stepping stone that might lead you to a better blessing.

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