SAC-Wk122 — Is Cohabiting called Marriage?

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If someone lives with a woman and bears children without paying her bride price, do we say they are couples or married?

Marriage is an act that is valid in three (3) ways:

1. Traditional or customary Marriage: This is where both parents give consent for their children to be legally bound together in marriage.
2. Court Marriage: This is where the government legal system through the registry is legally joined by two mature (in mind) men and a woman) who have consented to marry each other.
3. Church Wedding: at this point, the man and a woman who have accepted to be joined together in holy matrimony go to church before witnesses to be joined together “for better for worse and till death do us part”

Outside these three categories, there is no marriage, and there is no way one will pass through any of the above without paying bride price, therefore “no bride price no marriage” and until marital rites are fulfilled, you are on your own, no name change.

What's your view on cohabiting? Is it a short cut to getting married?

The standard of life falling every day becomes the strength of unbelievers to normalize what is wrong. In my area don't think of marriage if you do not have over 3 million naira currently. A common man who can not afford a square meal, how will he marry? Some of them counting their age sinfully resulted in cohabiting. Society is the problem or rather promoting this which has become a common practice. In every 10 men you see today, only 2 are legally married.

The above has been my personal concern, meanwhile, I am not supporting cohabiting. A man should respect the woman and her parents. The marriage list may be long, but do what you can and have their consent, which makes you noble and wise.

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Cohabiting will never be a shortcut to marriage, because marriage is a legal matter done before witnesses, not just the couple. Loving each other is not enough to live together.

Are there advantages or disadvantages of cohabiting?
To a moralist, there is no advantage but a liberalist may find some advantages which may be to know the fertility state of each other.

I remembered a lady who lived with a man for a few years. When I asked her when the man was coming to see her family for marriage rites, she told me she would conceive before the man sees the family for marriage.

To say it all, cohabiting is the resultant effect of fornication and sexual addictions.

Is it good to sexually test the person you want to marry before considering marrying them? What's your viewpoint?

Morally no, culturally no, it is sinful, but people do it for reasons that contradict the biblical standard and should ask God for forgiveness. When we are overwhelmed by the lust of the flesh, it is possible to bring modernity against morality.

My Take: this contest is educative, calling modernity to respect morality. Before you live together, do what you can from any of the three ways I mentioned above.

Thank you, this is my view and I invite @mayjay @nsisong2022 @dedejur to participate.

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