In the Midst of Disappointment

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Hi friends, welcome to my blog! I would love to share my thoughts concerning this contest. I actually find it interesting and I thought to pen what I think about the topic. Let's get right into it friends.

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What do you understand by Disappointment?

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I will like to keep my definition simple and straightforward, in a way that a layman would understand. Disappointment simply means a feeling you get when expectation is cut short or fails. No doubt everyone at some point has faced one in the past. As a matter of fact I just experienced one not quite long but life goes on, it's part of the package that life offers...smiles.

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Have you ever been disappointed before? What caused it?

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Oh yes! A couple of times. I just mentioned that I got disappointed just recently but that's not even the one I would like to share. The one I would like to share happened years ago. It's still stored in my memory bank.

I would say my desperation led to the disappointment. Well, there is always a cause for disappointment, mine was desperation but with a good intention. I mean who wouldn't want a job badly after being jobless for a very long time as an adult. I would also add that my very high expectation led to the disappointment.

You know before this so called "neo lifer" things became a thing of joke and laughter in Nigeria, I got into their trap. I was naive, moreso I was blinded by the desire to find something doing. One of them walked up to me then, we were two, he told us about a job opportunity and mentioned that we would be interviewed immediately and given a job.

This completely "green" me didn't know what I was setting myself up for. I prepared sheepishly, even looked for the transport fare I didn't have and journeyed down to the place only to find a lot of jobless people like myself seated to be lectured about something completely different from what brought me.

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I was so mad! Frustrated and disappointed all at the same time. As I sat there listening to their frustrating chants and rhymes, I asked myself how I got there. But then I summoned courage to leave there at the end of the day.. I left with a vow never to fall for their gimmick.

Today even a lad know they have become a joke. Well, I'm not trying to spoil their brand but they should be at least transparent enough to let people know what they are getting into and not lure them in with gimmicks.

Actually, it's not so hard to deal with it, we have only made it so hard because of our desires which are most time pure and selfless but at other times very selfish and unguided. Well we have to always learn to accept the reality of events. Don't try to sit still and dwell so much on what has happened. We just have to learn to shake off the dust and move on.

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What can we do to make disappointments less painful?

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Reduce expectation. Yes! When you expect too much you get hurt too much. So just take life easy. I've gotten to a point in my life where I care less about people's promise to me, as long as they are not God. I can nod my head in affirmation but it doesn't mean I have totally put my hope or trust in the person.

And this is also applicable to situations and events. I'm not someone who is negative but if the unexpected happens I learn to adjust and move on. This is the shock absorber I have adopted overtime.

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Not expecting too much from people or not expecting at all. Not expecting at all is what leads to surprise and that gladden your heart even more if they show up or when events unexpectedly turn out in your favour.

I think I need to drop my pen at this point. I hope you found this piece interesting. Thanks for your time. What do you think about this topic, feel free to hop in on the contest as well.

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Regards
@lhorgic❤️