SAC-Wk122 — Is Cohabiting called Marriage?

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Hello friends!!

Here are my thoughts on this topic, seat back and enjoy

If someone lives with a woman and bears children without paying her bride price, do we say they are couples or married?

What? Hello no ! They are not married at all. I won't even call them couples either. Calling them couples is even promoting them in a way.

In my view when a man and a woman are living together and having children without paying bride price I would say they are just lovers. In a setting like the igbo culture of Nigeria, it is not right and in cases where something like death finally happens to the woman, the man is forced to pay the bride price of the woman in death before she is buried.

What makes a man and a woman married is when the traditional rites of the woman has been done by the man. This is what qualifies the man to be called her husband and the woman to be called the wife. Aside this nothing else counts.

What's your view on cohabiting? Is it a short cut to getting married?

Hahaha! My view about cohabitating is simple. Is there really a short cut to marriage? I don't think so. It's either your are married or your are not, no such thing as short cut.

Remember I said earlier that what's makes you married as a man is when you have done the traditional rites of the woman. Any other way other than this is not approved.

When you start cohabitating, you make the man feel relaxed, and it will make him not to do the needful. He will not longer see the need to want to marry you properly when he is already cohabitating with you.

Are there advantages or disadvantages of cohabiting?

As long as I am concerned, I don't see any advantage in cohabitating. All I see are disadvantages.

Some disadvantages includes ;

• No longer willing to do the right thing
• Feel like he has gotten a family already what's the rush
• Some times sees you as cheap
• Value won't be attached to you
• Also thinks every other woman is like that.

Is it good to sexually test the person you want to marry before considering to marry them? What's your viewpoint?

Hahaha I laugh in Hebrew!
Test kee.. are you a product? Even if you are a product, when you go to the market or mall or supermarket to buy something like groceries or provisions do you bring them out to taste it? The answer is no.

Therefore I do not subscribe to this narrative of sexually testing a person. God's word is our standard for marriage and it's stated clearly that marriage is honourable with undefiled bed.

Gods word also states that that we should flee from fornication. This simply means when you test someone you are looking to marry it is called fornication. Even if you end up marrying that person, sin is sin. Why hurry to eat what is yours or what you will keep eating for the rest of your life?