I have no idea how to make it big here on steemit and anyone who claims to have the magic recipe is full of shit, [...]

Never a more true statement has been said! I also agree with your next part, basically saying to stick with it and post valuable content. That's the whole point of Steemit, and if you follow that one simple guideline, you're going to be just fine! :)

Also, commenting across the community as opposed to only being an author helps immensely!

Cheers and Happy Steeming! I will continue to be following you.