What I Witnessed Today Between Two Kids And The Reaction From Their Moms Made Me Question Everything About Self-defense.

Hello Fellow steemit family! Hope you're enjoying your weekend. It's me @prosper-1 again. I want to share the incident that happened today on my way back from the phone charging center today. Honestly for the last few days, the power holding company hasn't given us light and these charging centers has been our saviour.

After plugging my phone, I started coming back home, as I was walking down my street, I sighted two kids, both of them should be around 4 years old. They seemed to be playing with a toy, at first it seems like a harmless fun, but as i was approaching down to them, I noticed they had started dragging the toy, the one who seems to be the real owner was really trying hard to have his toy back, as they were still struggling , the other one pushed the owner to the ground. By that time I had already gotten to where they were.

As I got there, trying to handle the situation, the mother of the child who fell rushed out immediately and honestly I was expecting her to comfort her child and maybe scold the one who pushed, but instead she told her child to push back, and he did . I was surprised. She even shouted at him, telling him how he should always defend himself and never allow others to take advantage of him.

As i was trying to calm her down,the other child's mother came out, her reaction was completely different, she pulled her child up and scolded him for dragging what didn't belong to him and for pushing someone else, and asked him to say sorry to the owner.

Standing there, watching both mothers respond in completely different ways, made me stuck between two lessons, " One was teaching strength and Self-defense while the other was teaching accountability and restraint" and when you look at their reactions, both seemed to make sense in their own way.

After they parted with their kids, i walked home wondering, as parents, where do we draw the line? Should children be taught to always stand their ground, even if it means fighting back? or should they be taught self- control and how to resolve conflicts without being aggressive?

After many thoughts, I realized that parenting is all about the mindset we're building in our children, not only about correcting their behaviours. Because the way they handle conflicts today will shape how they will handle bigger ones tomorrow. If we teach them how to handle it aggressively, when they grow, they will handle it that same way.

Thanks for Reading 🌹. I couldn't capture the incident because I had already plugged my phone, I just had to share it here and probably hear your thoughts on which approach you would take if it were you.

_{Posted using SteemX}