When a client says to me, "My idiot husband cheated on me with the slut from the restaurant," I can be repulsed by the language and tone of voice and feel pain over this form of expression.

I think you're getting angry at the wrong person 😄

This was an interesting read, as usual, sparkled with insights throughout. I've always said that it's impossible for people not to have values, and our values are like glasses that we always wear and see the world through them, depending on what type of being or individual we are. So it's expected that a therapist, just like any other person, will 'judge' during a session, it's unavoidable. But you can be trained to have all those tools in your arsenal to stop those thoughts, almost like a meditator, and to intervene with argument or logic or knowledge, and stamp out the thought, and become more objective and helpful.

I for one found nothing surprising about your client's stance; it seemed a very sensible stance! To say that one 'needs' one's problems (as you say in the recording) is an over-interpretation I think in this case. Neo too didn't want to 'cure' his problems by taking the blue pill, he insisted on being 'unhappy'. Whether some people need a cure is relative, in this world. The same people (7 sages of Greece) who said γνώθι σαυτόν (know thyself) also said οι πλείστοι άνθρωποι κακοί (most people are evil!) As Krishnamurti said, "it is no measure of health to be well-adjusted to a profoundly sick society". If I were a therapist and people came into my office and said they are well, I'd give them pills :D

You make that point at the end, I guess, by telling us of the interpretation of 'diseases' as 'the ability to...'. That was very nice.