Confidence Over Your Cosmetics
I once listened to one of my friends who is a motivational speaker on one of his presentations, and a statement caught my attention. He said "your confidence and your body languages speak louder than your clothes." In the world we live in now, a lot of people are so concerned about external beauty and the standards of appearance created by the society. In this social media era, it is now widely believed that your value is determined by how flawless your skin is, how stylish your clothing is, and how sculpted your body is. This has diverted the attention of a lot of people from what really matters to pursuing after the less significant things. What you need to understand is that lasting confidence does not come from your makeup, your fashion sense, or from trends, but it comes from within.
I once attended a particular event which was hosted by an N.G.O some months back to honour some dignitaries that have assisted them in various capacities. When the event started, a lady walked in looking so polished and panache. She had an abundance of beaut and physically attractive. As she passed, people could not help but turned to stare at her. She obviously took time to work on her physical appearance, plus the adorable perfume coming from her. While the event was about getting started, the MC casually reached out to her, maybe he also got attracted too. He asked her to take the opening remark. It was then that I realised that appearance and confidence are two different things.
When she came up the podium to take the opening remark, it was catastrophic. Not only that she lost her confidence, which may be excused because she was not informed earlier, but she could not coordinate herself. Her composure was so off and it also affected her speech. The speech lacked cohesion and coherence, and was almost not related to what an opening remark should be. The 5 mins was almost wasted and it reduced her attractiveness immediately. I am sure that people took away focus from her. I did not even know when she left the event because she did not stay till the end. This goes to prove that even beyond cosmetics, confidence is very important. That is, you are not trying to conform to the standards of the society nor trying to impress them with the way you appear, but by what you carry within you.
It is worthy to note that building confidence starts by accepting yourself the way you are, not trying to force yourself to be what you are not. That is, appreciating who you are, not only what you can see on the outside. I am not saying that dressing well and looking good are bad, they are definitely good and can boost your confidence. But you also need to focus on building yourself from within. True confidence radiates from inside out - your smile, your resilience, and your creativity. These qualities cannot be replaced by cosmetics. When you focus on these qualities, your appearance will become secondary, and an added advantage. You need to understand that your worth and your value is not a measure of how people perceive you, but how you perceive yourself.
Another thing that helps you to build confidence is to embrace authenticity. It is true that makeup and cosmetics can enhance features, but they should not define your identity. That is, wearing a good appearance and cosmetics may be a form of expressing yourself, but they should not be used to cover insecurities. When your outer appearance is aligned with your true self, you will exude a natural confidence that is without question. People will be more drawn to your authenticity, your internal strength, and your self-respect more than your cosmetics.
In building confidence, you also need to learn how to set goals and then celebrate your little wins. Be intentional about your growth. The more you succeed in what you do, the more confidence it will build in you. Each of your wins, no matter how little it may look, is a testament of your capacity and a reminder that you are worth more than your appearance.
Finally, to build confidence, you have to learn to move and company with the people that will help you to see positivities in yourself. Stay with people who will uplift you, who will motivate you to do more, who will inspire you to do more, and who will appreciate you for who you are. When you know that you are part of the people who care, it will build a sense of value within you, and it will build your confidence.
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