It seems that in everyone's impression, parents are always very strict with themselves, the requirements are also quite high, and there are few very straightforward moments of praise. Even if it is praise, it is quite objective and implicit.

However, as long as you inquire about the tone of relatives and neighbors, you can hear a completely different version from their mouths.

For parents, no matter how good they say the children of other people's families are, in fact they always feel that their own children are the best!

But it's a pity that the hidden and warmth of parents' thoughts didn't work very well when the children were young.

Most of them are when they grow up and think back to their childhood, only to realize how good they are in their parents' hearts. Some children even wonder if their parents hate themselves because of their parents' high demands and implicit and rare praise.

No matter how deep the love is, it needs to be proclaimed in order to get closer to each other.

So specifically, what should parents do?

1.Do not compare your own baby with other children

Although most parents don't really think other children are good, they want to spur their children in this way.

However, this method often does not produce very good results. On the contrary, it undermines the child's self-confidence and produces a thought: "You praise him every day, do you want him to be your child?"

In fact, there are many ways to spur. There is no end to comparing with others, because there are people outside of people, and there are heaven outside of them. Furthermore, everyone's talent points are different, so it is not fair to their children to make such a simple and rude comparison.

The correct way to spur him should be to compare him with himself, and constantly think of ways to surpass himself and become better.

2. Don't be stingy with praise

For example, when the child does not achieve the desired effect in the early stage of calligraphy, the parents should comfort him at this time: "It doesn't matter, practice makes perfect, you must be able to write better!" Instead of complimenting him brainlessly.

You have to know that the child is very simple. Although you only meant to praise him, he would really take it as a tonic, and he believed in his writing well. How can he improve like this?

So, don't hide your love deep in your heart and let your children guess for themselves. That kind of love, even if the child will eventually understand it in the future, it's almost meaningless in the end.