Stop making excuses!

How many times have you been forced to listen to someone going on and on about how miserable their life is? You keep waiting for them to come to sort of conclusion, make some decision, but no, the whole litany of complaints ends completely anti-climatic with the same: 'Oh, well, let's hope better days are coming'.

In my country, the phrase people use in this context is 'let's hope the sun will be shining on our street, too'. I find it very appropriate for this type of mentality – there's nothing they can do about everything that's bothering them. You cannot make the sun shine, now can you? It's not within their power, there's nothing they can do and they don't.
There are, indeed, some circumstances that are not within your power to change. You cannot will the markets to go up, just as you cannot change the weather.
What is within in your power is moving to a sunny street instead of waiting for the sun to show up on your dead-end street!
Stop behaving like a victim and stop making excuses for your lack of action!

Take stress, for instance. How many times have you heard people complain about the stress with their job or the kids? Not a new job, but the old one, the one they've had for years, even decades. It's fairly obvious there will be no improvement, so it's up to them to do something – apply for shorter hours or change their job altogether. A couple of days ago, I went as far as telling a friend of mine maybe getting fired wouldn't be such a bad idea, suggestion which didn't go down well, as you can imagine.
You're no longer happy with the relationship you're in? Things are never going to get back the way they were when you fell in love with the guy, so move on if you're unhappy.
Then, there the question of luck. Just as the sun refuses to shine on their street, luck isn't coming their way.

I've come to suspect some people enjoy being a victim in their own life story. And the attention they're getting with their consistent unhappiness. Being the victim, they're obviously powerless and you they bear no blame for the mess they find themselves in.
Such people turn a deaf ear when someone dares to say out loud what they damn well know deep inside – there is actually something they could do. Cut back on those long hours. Stop spending all that money on crap so they can switch to a less demanding job that pays less. Stop running around with the kids from one activity to another and enjoy a snowball fight in the park. Small changes or bigger changes – but there are things they can do to make their life better.

One of the perks of being the perpetual victim is that you are allowed to secretly hate on the others, those who live on the sunny side of the street. Like the bloody bitch who has a husband and a lover, while you're trapped in boring relationship which doesn't make you happy at all. Forget about the bitch and do something about your own life.
Just like simply hating the guys on the trending page on Steemit. You can moan and rant as long as you want about life not being fare, but that's not going to help you. Better do something about it- write about something different, make new friends, spend more time in chat rooms.

Some time ago, a friend was telling me she'd come to believe all the stress in her life was making her physically ill, which I believe is quite true. I'm sorry to disappoint you, but that's all I can say about this. I wish I had more to tell, something enlightening, some miraculous turn of events, a drastic change. There is nothing to add, I'm afraid. She's still stressed out and unwell. In three months time, she'll be just the same.

As I grow older, I find that I've had enough of saying 'So sorry to hear that' or 'It's such a shame that...'. I will nevertheless continue to do that, because that's what friends are for. Or are they? Am I being a true friend commiserating with you or should I be rude and tell you what I really think?

Stop making excuses and do something with your life!

Thanks for reading!

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