No More Bad Sex!!

This is it, I am taking a stand. I am not going to put up with things I don't enjoy anymore. Don't get me wrong, I do enjoy having sex, I'm just going to stop accommodating the sexual fantasies and fetishes I don't enjoy. If it is a deal breaker then good, we can just stop wasting each others time.

One of my first real sexual experiences, not including the abuse (see previous posts), was when I was 18. Now you don't really get to know people's fetishes until after you have signed up to a full blown relationship... Anyway, I digress, this dude was into getting squashed. It wasn't so bad for me, not really enjoyable though.. I made the mistake of wearing wedge shoes and he asked if I would stand on his dick. I was still a virgin at this point!! So I stood on his dick a few times but things soon progressed, he wanted me to help him lower a computer desk onto his dick. Can you imagine? He just really enjoyed the feeling of pressure on his member. I broke up with him soon after that with my virginity still intact. He is married to someone else now...

When I was in my mid twenties, I started seeing this guy who was into auto erotic asphyxiation. I told him straight that I was 100% not into that and I had no intention in trying it at all. When we had sex, he would ask me to choke him. I could just about muster encircling my hands around his throat but I could not bring myself to strangle him. This one time, without warning, he started choking me! It was awful, I could not breathe. I tried to pull his hands away but he was holding on tight. Finally, thankfully, he stopped. I was so mad! How could he do something so awful without my consent? He said he thought I might like it and he giggled at me because he found it funny when I lost my temper. Needles to say, that relationship did not last.

Now those were a couple of examples of fetishes I found displeasing. The other thing I am not going to put up with is sex toys. Now you might think I am asking too much, but I don't care. I can make myself orgasm without the use of sex aids. I do not enjoy them and I do not have to put up with them. I dislike the sensation of inanimate or vibrating foreign objects in my orifices. My ex used to spend hundreds of pounds on glass butt plugs and anal beads without consulting me. When I showed apprehension upon their usage, he would call me boring, so I put up with it just for his pleasure. I also used to get awful UTI's. There is a link there...

Ultimately, it stops now. I'm not going to shave either. I know a lot of people don't like hair down there but I don't like ingrown hairs, shaving rash or feeling sore after waxing. I will stay single before I put up with anymore bad sex!

I am not trying to be a brat, I am just trying to empower myself. I can say no, I can decline, I don't have to please others and neither do you!!