How do you stand up to stalkers and bullies?

Here are some recommendations for dealing with stalkers and bullies in a healthy, safe manner:

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For Stalkers:
• Never engage or respond to the stalker directly as this can reinforce their behavior
• Document all incidents meticulously with dates, times, witness statements, etc.
• Report the stalking behavior to the proper authorities like the police
• Get a restraining or protective order against the stalker if justified
• Enhance physical security at home and work - install cameras, secure entrances, etc.
• Vary routines and travel patterns to avoid being easily tracked
• Use caller ID services to block/screen calls and texts

For Bullies:
• Build a strong support system of family, friends, teachers who can intervene
• Use assertive but non-escalating responses to the bully's taunts or threats
• Avoid the bully's vicinity as much as possible to limit interaction
• Report serious bullying incidents to school administrators or workplace superiors
• Consider counseling to build resilience and coping strategies
• If physical threats, notify authorities about potential crimes

The key is not to react with aggression which can escalate the situation. Prioritize safety, documentation, limiting contact, and involving proper authorities when necessary. Counseling can also help process trauma and rebuild self-esteem.