Love

#FORGIVENESS
Forgiveness is to let go. Totally. Completely, without keeping records of the hurts, or replaying the memories of how and why it happened from time to time.

The hidden truth is, we so forgive, but that's where it usually ends, in the first part, but we never trully forget, or at least even try. After all is calm we remember them, sometimes we even compare our partners present actions to their actions in the past;
He says He is going out to hang with friends, but the last time he said that to you he lied, hanging it with some random girl instead. So now even when he is telling the truth he stands a half chance of been believed. The only thing stopping you from opposing his hangout is the fact that he apologied the last time and you have forgiven him, that's all. That's the reason why you believe him now, because you have accepted he his apologies, but you have still not accepted the fact that he has changed. And this is the other side of forgiveness.

...letting go. Completely.

Sometime when we get into a new fight we remind our partner of how they have hurt us in the past, we go offensive with it, we become defensive with it, we mention them to remind them, meaning we trully haven't forgiven them.
To win in marriage we need to get past the first stage of forgiveness, and find peace in the second stage of forgetting about it, trusting your partner has changed.

The second stage is where we relate with them as though they have never done anything wrong.The stage where we attack the issues of the new fight, becasue you hold no record of previous battles.We forgive, and each repentance brings a starting over.
This way, a new fight will always be our new fight.
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