RE: Epic Link Between Cleaning And Statism (Revisited)
That's an interesting observation. I can corroborate it with my own experience in that every time I've tried to implement some kind of chore regimen in my family (out of desperation to keep things somewhat clean and running smoothly without all the work falling on myself), it has been abandoned within a couple of weeks. Reason being, we are all too spontaneous and I can't stand telling people what to do, lol. So even though it might have been helpful to have some kind of system everyone participated in, my inner anarchist prevented me from imposing it. I can easily see how an authoritarian would have a field day forcing all of the family to participate in a system that ultimately didn't work because regulations usually only serve to complicate things.
Haha right..
And I do think a chores rotation can be fine. Basically, if everyone agrees to it. Like, in that case it's just putting a structure around it, and it's an easy way to keep track, which I think for some people is just helpful.. like, you want to pull your weight, but sometimes forget and aren't sure how often etc
To me you aren't really trying to be the "boss" in that case, you're just facilitating the structure.
But ya, I could see it easily breaking down, and it just making more sense to do things in flow as you feel like it.
I feel like at the end of the day, when the chores system is fair to everyone and people stick to it and whatnot, you'd probably find that just trusting each other outside of the system would generally work fine too. So you don't really need a system. But, if the goal is to unfairly impose yourself on others, then the system becomes vital.
(So the system is more useful for bad than for good, but there's probably some small window to use it positively.)