Ghosted I: When Love Started Whispering Warnings

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Hello, trust you are doing fine today and how’s work and prayers going on, said to check up on you. She wrote in a WhatsApp text and forwarded to him. Few hours later he replied that everything was fine and thanks for checking up. He didn’t make mention of their meeting the next day which he actually told her it was okay to have her around since they’ve been looking forward to meeting up after years of not seeing each other.

A little taken aback she showed the text to her father who has been privy of her relationship with this man whom she was obviously in love with and talking of marrying. He didn’t say anything about our meeting tomorrow. That’s strange but just to satisfy your conscience, ask him if he’s still expecting you tomorrow as planned, her dad chipped in.

Few months ago a call woke up her up on a Saturday morning, it’s been two years . What could he possibly want? Have they reported my bank account that it’s been dormant to him? Is he calling because of my account status with the bank she queried? With sleepy eyes and weary hands she picked the call and then began a relationship she thought would end in forever.

The fiery connection and memories recall was magical. What was supposed to be a two minutes call lasted for three hours and then with a promise to call back. Just right there and then she felt he was the one. Finally an answer to prayer. God is this you? Was the connection with the banks operation manger of the bank she banks with who helped her out with her transactions issues few years ago about to become something real? Were they moving from just acquaintances to soul mates?

A friendship was bathed from two seemingly strangers who barely got talking on two occasions in a distant remote village. All they had was a contact exchange and few hi’s physically before the separation by relocation. Was the universe bringing them together for good?

Hours turn to days and then he said, “let pray about this, if we get our confirmations on been meant for each other then we hit it off”. Good she agreed. She already had her confirmations before he showed up. She was exhilarated and thankful to God but two cannot walk together except they agree right? Was he here for marriage indeed or was there more to this request? She had a lot of questions.

No relationship is perfect right? When you see obstacles, could it be because no one is perfect or are they seemingly red flags? How do you decipher between a red flag and a weakness?

Initially it was beautiful, getting to know each other, asking questions and connections and pet talks here and there. For someone who is so sincere and willing to learn and is open for growth, could she be saying a lot and getting little in return.

Patience is key they say, well?. Initially he was the first to call. Yea always call after work. Not bad right. She’s more of a texter and he’s more of a caller. Perfect I guess. They would talk for hours after work and then pray together before sleeping. He led, she followed.

One day out of the blues he asked? What if I insist you’d get pregnant for me before marriage? What? That was a shocker for her. Then began the sermon of why that’s not a feasible option for her. We are both believers. Why would you even think such? Ohhh she understands. He was once married for seven years without a child before he lost the wife to some complications after ovarian cyst removal surgery.

Well, maybe if she was in his shoes she would have understood but without judging, she tried to make her stand known. Greeted with silence and another round of emphasis on the subject another day, she reiterated that if that’s the ground for marrying you, then I am not your bride. Do you mean that statement? He queried. Yes. It’s not a do or die affair. I love you but I wouldn’t do otherwise to proof that, she answered with the utmost soft sternness she could mutter. She could feel her heart bleeding alittle…no Lord, No.

(To be continued)