DIVORCE SOLUTION.

Hi, my name Is Mario, and I was divorce a few years ago luckily without children. Friends and family members that I have known for years. Been to their weddings, and I liked to see them happy. But lately I haven’t been to a wedding in 3 years now. Those friends now are not so happy as many are going through the big “D” . I listen and I listen, this is what a great friend does. No advice, but your allowed to agree to help make their feelings a little bit more easy to deal with. It’s a time of hardship and loneliness, lost memories. It doesn’t matter if one friend was married for one year or another with ten. The pain is no different. I know, like I said I been there.

Divorce rates are higher than people getting married. Like 75/25. Sorry about using something like this into mathematics.
So Many people asking, Mario what is your solution? I am going through a divorce. Believe me I know those are the worst times. People see phycologists and really all they do is listen for $250 an hour. My wife seen another man , and my proffesional healer, says to me, maybe she just needs this for the time being. I said what? I am out here, this is my last appointment. Really? Would anybody that’s reading this, would you agree? Please let me know.

First thing I did, even though my employer trying to really just look after his company, tells me to take a Month off. I said thank you, but I need to get back to work, I am falling behind. See working kept my mind going. Please don’t take time off. Your going to turn to alcohol or whatever, and do something you will regret. You don’t need this at all, remember tell yourself I am one strong son of gun. Everyday you look in the mirror, you say I am the better person and I will live a better life after this BS is done. Get cleaned up and off to work.

Now litigation that is working for you, remember this, always, their on your side for one thing. “Money” and they love to drag it on as long as they like. I found this out the hard way, $30,000 I could of used on myself. So here is this part. Ask your lawyer what he or she wants. Wait a day or two , and when you find out, just let them have it. Believe me it’s not worth your insanity. Your anger has to be at minus 20 when you tell your lawyer this. Keep calm. Don’t give any excuse for your spouse to make your life harder. The best thing you can do is stay calm and act like everything is alright. They will become furious. Mine did, oh boy did she ever. I got my half, sold it all, for a fresh new start. Before I got calm I had a restraining order against me. 500 yards away from the house, I barely did it, but I did. Than one day it dawned on me. She is hurting just as much as me. So I decided to play cool, so in the last lawyer signing of documents , she thought I was seeing someone else. Worked like a charm. End of material bullshit. That stuff comes and goes.

It’s the hurt , that damn hurt that stays in your heart for a long time. I had a choice let the hurt control myself or I control it. Well I think you all know what I chose by now? I went out with friends, started working out, looked great within a year, and I was dating again. But I didn’t want to get tied down just yet. Us humans require love in our lives to survive. I got together with my brother and we went every where’s. I felt free again, making my own money, doing and buying what I wanted. We moved in together, my brother and I and yes we had a little fun with the opposite sex. But that was not the highlight. We snowboarded every weekend in the winter, fly fishing in the Spring and summer and all kinds of things I wanted to do.

See it’s a question of am I going to live like this, or do I control how I live. It takes the most will power you have. Tested to the outer limits . Never get back together with your wife or husband, girlfriend or boyfriend. The problems why you walked away, are still their, it’s just a question of when they will arise again. Stay away from this, believe me.

Time will make that hurt go away, and doing what you like, dating again makes it go away. I mean you never forget the memories. But one day and you will, you will think of all the great memories you two had together, and just let Her or him go.

After many dates, I met a lady that had everything I was looking for. She was pretty, really pretty. Us guys tend to go for the bad girls, or you gals go for bad boys. Those don’t last in marriage, doesn’t mean you cannot have a little fun.

I been with her now 10 years, sure we have our little fights, but that’s when you know you have a great person. You can be who you are. Let that other person know which buttons not to press. Same goes for you. The best system. THE RED BUTTON SYSTEM. I mean you always find others but now it gets easier, they just stop. It’s great, I hate fighting. I rather have her like it was the first date. Do things together, travel, go to concerts, whatever. Make the memories of your life.

With children a little harder I noticed with my friends. I talk to my friends. I always say pick them up yourself. Don’t bring your new girlfriend or wife, same with you ladies, no new men. Why?, jealousy, it’s a killer. Him and her. Those memories last a life time. Do it for your children. Be sensible, tell your children are married too. You see you two with children always have to see one another. Being angry, man that’s a life killer. Let it go. Enjoy your children. I know I would if I had a child.
I love family. Try my best to accept how everyone is. How everyone is, I am no better.

Bless you all.
Mario