Marriage is never a gamble; making a conscious choice is the key to confidence.
If you slack off in marriage, there's nowhere to turn for help. The stupidest gamble in the world is betting your entire life's happiness on one person. Winning is a stroke of luck, but losing means you can hardly find a way back.
Everyone wants to win the lottery in marriage, finding someone who understands and cares for them, turning the mundane into something beautiful. But in reality, too many people fall prey to "love blindness," blinded by superficial romance. At the beginning of a relationship, a sweet word, a bouquet of roses, a candlelight dinner—they think they've met their one and only prince charming, and can't wait to get married and start living together. They forget that courtship attentiveness is just a formality; anyone can act. This kind of marriage, built on dopamine, is like a firecracker: it looks exciting and sounds great, but after it explodes, all that's left are shredded pieces, and you're the only one left to clean up the mess.
Marriage is never child's play, much less a high-stakes gamble. Being clear-headed before marriage is a million times more important than settling afterward. The romance that makes your heart flutter eventually can't withstand the mundane realities of daily life; the sweet talk and clever tactics can't hide the effects of long-term companionship. Before marriage, keep your eyes open and don't let love cloud your judgment. Love is fleeting; shared values, character, and a sense of responsibility are the foundation that sustains a marriage. Remember, dating is about appreciating each other's strengths, while marriage is about living with each other's weaknesses. See things clearly before marriage to avoid suffering later.
Life is short, don't settle. Rather than being a ninja turtle in a quagmire of a marriage, enduring unhappiness and ruining yourself, be patient and discerning when you're single. The person who grows old with you may not be someone you fall in love with at first sight, nor someone who offers a passionate romance, but someone who gives you peace of mind, someone who resonates with you, someone who can weather life's storms together, and someone who can endure the mundane years together.
Marriage isn't a game where you're dealt a winning hand from the start; it's about who knows how to play it. Don't rely on luck to win; rely on clear-headed choices, and on mutual cherishing and tolerance. Choosing the right person can make even an ordinary life extraordinary; choosing the wrong person can ruin even the best hand. May we all open our eyes, not be blinded by romance, not compromise, and find the person we can build a good life with, playing the hand of marriage smoothly and enjoying a fulfilling life.