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RE: Those Who Speak Ill of You Are Just Two Types
So this is projective identification! I used to drain myself over others' malice, but now I realize they've never hated me—they hate their own incompetence. Focusing on self-growth is the best way to counter malice.
The more outstanding you are, the more likely you are to be targeted. That malice is like a mirror—it reveals the other person's narrow-mindedness, and also helps me see my own worth more clearly. Calming down to grow is more powerful than any rebuttal.