Change the view of the view
CHANGE THE VIEW OF THE VIEW" *
There is a housewife who has 4 sons. Affairs shopping, laundry, eating, cleanliness & tidiness own home handled. Husband and his children appreciate his devotion.
there is only one problem, this cleaning mother is not very happy when the carpet in her house dirty. He can explode and get angry prolonged just because he saw the footprints on the carpet, and the unpleasant atmosphere will last all day.
in fact, ... with 4 boys at home, it's so easy to torture.
On the advice of his family, he went to see a psychologist named Virginia Satir, and told him the problem. after listening to her mother's story attentively, Virginia Satir smiled & said to her: I hope you close your eyes and imagine what I am going to say.
The mother then closed her eyes.
"Imagine a neat housewife and a clean mother's carpet expanding, untainted, no dirt, no trace of shoes, how do you feel?"
Keeping a blind eye, her smile broke, her glum face turned bright. He looks happy with the shadow that he see.
virginia Satir continued; That means no one at home mother.
No husband, no children, no jokes and laughter. Mother house empty and empty without the people my mother loves ".
instantly her face turned cloudy, her smile immediately disappeared, her breath contains sobs. Her feelings were shaken. Her mind immediately worried about what was happening to her husband and her children.
"Now look back at the carpet, mom saw the footprints & shit there, it means husbands and mother's children are at home, the people who the mothers love are with mothers and their presence warms the hearts of mothers".
The mother started smiling again, she was comfortable with the visualization page.
"Now open your mother's eyes" The mother opened her eyes
"How, if the dirty carpet is still a concern for mothers?" The mother smiled and shook her head.
I know what you mean, says the mother,
_ * "If we look at the right angles, then things that seem negative can be seen positively". * _
Since then, the mother never again complains about his dirty carpet, because every time he sees the footprints there, he knows, his beloved family is home.
the story above is a true story. Virginia Satir is a well-known psychologist who inspired Richard Binder & John Adler to create * NLP * _ (Neurolinguistic Programming) ._
and the technique used above is called Reframing, which is how we 'reframe' our point of view so that something negative can be positive, one way by changing the point of view.
Here are some examples of changing point of view:
I am grateful;
_ * 1. for the wife who says tonight we only eat instant noodles, because that means he is with me not with others. * _
- For a husband who just sits lazily on the sofa watching TV, because that means he is at home and not in bars, cafes, or in a nasty place. *
_ * 3. for children who are noisy complaining about many things, because that means they are at home and not being street children. * _
- For a considerable tax bill, that means God's gratefulness provides for sustenance for our income. *
_ * 5. for the garbage and dirt the former party I have to clean, because that means our family is surrounded by many friends. * _
- For clothes that start narrow, because that means I eat enough. *
_ * 7. for fatigue, fatigue and fatigue at the end of the day, because that means I am still able to work hard.
- For all the criticism I have heard about the Government, because that means there is still freedom of speech. *
_ * 9. to the sound of a loud alarm at 4.30 am which woke me up, because that means I can still wake up, still alive. * _
- For those who post a long broadcast and 'disturb' this means there are still some good people who want to share Advice and LOVE to us. *