A loving foster family for a little baby girl, but still they get twelve years of CPS trouble!

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The story about this foster child is one that happened years ago

My boyfriend had a foster sister, and his parents were constantly fighting CPS in Holland. His sisters biological mother didn't even want her in her life, and the father neither. Actually her mother was unfit to raise a child, for example she had her daughter crawling on the grass unsupervised next to a busy road when she was under nine months of age. She was clueless about the fact that this was dangerous. I have more examples but I don't want to add too many detailed things because of privacy reasons.

The girl came into the family when she still was a baby

The biological parents were included in her life because CPS wanted this, as they thought it should be healthy for the child to also know the biological parents. The mother failed to be a constant factor in the child's life during many years. But CPS would not stop trying to include her more in the child's life.
This can be a good thing, of course, but in this case, the mother did not even want to be a factor in the child's life. When the child was a toddler, the mother visited again, and they played a game. The mother wanted to win from the child, she did not realize that this was a young child she was playing against. To give you some more insight about her IQ level too.

The foster parents always said the mother was welcome, they were not hiding her from the biological mother

At a certain time (read: after many court hearings set up by CPS to place the child back to mother!) they told the biological mother, that from now on she was welcome anytime she wanted to see her daughter. Guess what happened next? From that moment on she was never seen again to visit her. Still CPS kept starting court hearings about placing the child back with her mother, who didn't want this. That sounds like it should be incorrect, I know, but this is really what happened. I've heard these stories many many times firsthand, because this constant battle (I believe it was about 12 years in total) against CPS is something that made my boyfriend resent that organisation so much for the rest of his life.

My boyfriend learned in these years

That these people need to have everything in writing, every thing needs to be documented and you need to be prepared in court. He is the reason I stepped up my game in the time I still believed that they were not against me but working in my favor. I wish I had listened a bit earlier, but I was stubborn because I could not believe they are actually not working in the child's favor but only have dollar (in our case euro) signs in their eyes while interfering.
The battle his parents have fought all these years have had deep impact on my boyfriend. He has learned a lot as a child about matters he should not be worried about, but CPS made him see these things.

For him it was his little sister

From the moment she arrived in the family he was proud of his little sister, and actually he has never treated her different, but has been a big brother to her for the rest of their lives. While thinking back about CPS making them go to court year after year and making sure they would not be at peace, makes me angry. Because I truly believe that this family has shown her nothing but love. And if I were that girl back then, there would probably not have been a better loving family for me than this one. And she wanted to be there too, but she could not speak up in court until she was twelve years old. This has made her very insecure in life, and I believe these things have left deep trauma's too.

Even when a foster child finds a loving home

This is not a guarantee that CPS will leave them in peace. The things they've tried over the years are shocking. And my boyfriend told me that they've had more than twenty caseworkers over the years, and only two of them were doing it for the child's best interest. But as you can imagine, they disappeared soon enough because they soon found out for what kind of organisation they were working.. Can you imagine, dealing with them for twelve years and seeing only two caseworkers that aren't the caseworker from hell?

Luckily after she turned twelve

They finally got to adopt her, but the fear of them still coming to interfere has never left that poor girl.. Because they don't actually close your case until you're passed the age of eighteen.
I can imagine that some foster parents can't deal with this constant stress while trying to do the right thing. It's not only the biological parents they are harassing, sometimes it can be a foster family too. They just see where there is money to be earned, and in this case the biological mother would have needed constant help, which for them, equals making money...