You can say that again.. but hopefully in the end, it will be good for something.. Doesn't take away the pain it gives to think about it.. Because even when the dad failed to maintain agreed visits with the kids, I still kept adapting and gave him time to see them. Little did I know that I should have been alarmed by his behaviour and warnings.. I thought what he says is not possible in a country like the Netherlands.. I thought I was protected instead of being a money maker for the system. But therefor I share my story so people will eventually (hopefully) know to be carefull when certain things happen. So that they can act otherwise and don't just trust on the pretty blue eyes of social workers when they say they will help you..
I've not been in a situation like you, but I learned a long time ago that there is only 'justice' for the one with the smooth talking, not the one who does everything according to the rules.
This is what people told me afterwards too, you should have done things by not following the rules.. but I simply kept believing it would be just fine. I knew nothing about the narcissistic or psychopathic behaviour.. now I hope to let my flaws be a lesson before it goes wrong.. Too many families torn apart worldwide ..
You can say that again.. but hopefully in the end, it will be good for something.. Doesn't take away the pain it gives to think about it.. Because even when the dad failed to maintain agreed visits with the kids, I still kept adapting and gave him time to see them. Little did I know that I should have been alarmed by his behaviour and warnings.. I thought what he says is not possible in a country like the Netherlands.. I thought I was protected instead of being a money maker for the system. But therefor I share my story so people will eventually (hopefully) know to be carefull when certain things happen. So that they can act otherwise and don't just trust on the pretty blue eyes of social workers when they say they will help you..
I've not been in a situation like you, but I learned a long time ago that there is only 'justice' for the one with the smooth talking, not the one who does everything according to the rules.
This is what people told me afterwards too, you should have done things by not following the rules.. but I simply kept believing it would be just fine. I knew nothing about the narcissistic or psychopathic behaviour.. now I hope to let my flaws be a lesson before it goes wrong.. Too many families torn apart worldwide ..