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RE: How my kids and I fled to a women's shelter for their violent dad
I am from Holland, live in Belgium. I do hate to hear things like this :-( What are your outlooks with your kids now?
I am from Holland, live in Belgium. I do hate to hear things like this :-( What are your outlooks with your kids now?
I am writing all the horrible things down. I have a few more posts.. we got homeless so I had to surrender them to his family .. and from that moment he wouldnt let me see them. We also had a horrible CPS worker who made big mistakes.. today I will post another part of the story. But it is hard sometimes to write about it, so whatever comes to mind I write about.. Not in the actual order it happened. We had to flee to another country to escape the stalking activities. I lived in fear constantly.
You are not in Holland now? You got homeless but now you have a roof over your head? How long ago since you saw your children? Horror! my heart cries for you <3
After the homeless period I found the strenght to find a place to stay in a very bad condition, but we had no choice as I found out I was expecting. Everything looked fine for a few weeks only, then the stalking activities were getting horrible. This was a horror house, and they broke in to our room several times (get back to this in another post). The point is we got our baby after a few months, and we only got about 1 month of no stalking before the activities were getting dangerous. And we had to protect our baby from this horror. So I found a way to leave Holland, we found volenteering work in Spain, for this work we got a roof over our heads and food. The little money we had left from welfare we left with only 2 suitcases and the rest stayed there. After some months I found a job in Spain, and we could rent a house. So things were looking better for us. At the moment that I write this, we live in Budapest as my boyfriend found a job here with a permanent contract. So things are getting better for us here. But it is the time now to share my story as I don't want this to be one of the forgotten horror stories. When I can handle is emotionally, and when my book is in the stores (first I need to finish is) I want to be able to get to the european court about this situation. Not to Holland, but the European court of human rights. As they left us without income, then we lost the house and therefor I had to surrender the kids with the promise I would get them back when I would have a house again. But none of this was done. Instead they confirmed after 6 months no payment that we did have the right for this welfare every month, paid us the 6 months and the rest was our problem. So no turning back the eviction by giving us another house, while it was their fault, because we had the right to recieve it by applying. The most difficult thing is that from that moment on my ex would not accept me to see them, and not 1 social worker would do anything about it, they said: you have to agree together. While they promised me that I would get them back and it was a temporary thing. I saw them only twice after this. One time before I gave birth to their baby sister, and one time after. It was horrible being the one treated like I committed a crime while he was the dangerous one, and could get away with everything. I could not even be alone with them and had to see them at the CPS office. I haven't seen them for a little less than 2 years now. And it is horrible. But if we hadn't left Holland, I am convinced that I wouldnt be here anymore. He would either let me have killed myself or let someone else do this. They also cut our engine cables from the car while it was 33 degrees outside. And more of this sort of things. It is an impossible decision to make, but I felt that my only way to survive and keep the baby safe was leaving, and this would be the only way to cut him from having the power /control of my mind because I lived in fear constantly. Slowly I climbed up again emotionally, with ups and downs of course. And some days I cry like a baby about them, but I must keep the faith, that I will succeed bringing my story out, and that one day there will be some helping hand that shows me the right path to get this to the EU court, but for this my story needs to be clear on paper, and my goal is to have the book finished too for this moment comes. I have a plan, and my gut says I should follow it. So I will. Thanks for your kind words, I know some things are not in right order posting it, but I have a hard time talking about some parts some days, and therefore I post something else first. :)
The more you talk the more order you will form in your head! So please continue, how old are your kids now? And you have one girl, how old is she now? Have you got someone to help you write a book, even when it would not become a best seller it would help you so much. Do you want to write in Dutch or English. Are you having a good relation now? How would he be , when your other kids would be with you now? Di you ever hear something from your children? Do you know how they are now? Please write...