Have you ever broken up with someone over a single character flaw?

Have you ever broken up with someone over a single character flaw?

I have. It was his traditional mindset about women.

It wasn't something stated before, as we used to be close friends since we were kids and knew everything about each other. He's 3 years older than me.

It was a dreamy relationship at the very beginning. Honestly speaking, I always felt there was something more between us and probably always used to see us together whenever I have been thinking about my future. I was deeply in love for years at that point.

I am an open-minded person, I like talking a lot, traveling and trying new things. Definitely an extrovert. He seemed like this too (until we became a couple when I was 17).

At that point, my life completely changed.

I couldn't meet my friends because he was getting enormously jealous and he didn't want to go with me anywhere either. Some other guy liked my new profile picture? Instant headaches, stomachaches, even fever. Look what you've done to me! I felt guilty.

It also referred to family meetings. He really liked my mother's side of the family because they are clearly traditional too. Long story short - many children, toddlers, my aunts always in kitchen and pregnant. Men can do what they want. Unlike my father's family - they are individuals, loud, always speak their controversial opinions and love discussing about those differences. My relatives on father's side are educated. They don't praise getting married in your twenties. I guess my ex didn't like it. He met them few times in our 4 years long relationship (!) because he, obviously, always had something else to do. It got to the point I didn't even want him to go with me to see them. We were seriously conflicted after every single gathering.

I was supposed to stay in all the time and wait until the evening to see him. He had a well paid job and I was a student. He's a workaholic, was falling asleep every time we were seeing each other at my place. My mom thought he's a great man to be with.

Going to his place was not lady-like.

When I started going to the gym again, he was doing everything to stop me. Suddenly, he wasn't feeling well and needed me. I felt guilty again. He was good-looking, masculine and had a lot of money. I, on the other hand, gained 10kgs.

At that time, I was so addicted to him, that I didn't want to meet any other people. My friends were partying and having fun as it was the last year of high school. We went on a holiday to Spain where he proposed to me. In a hotel room. Would I expect something bigger? Yes. At least, he wanted me and it was the only thing that counted. I was 19 at the time, so of course, I said yes. It didn't feel right.

Okay, but being engaged doesn't mean you're going to get married next year, at least, for me. It was all happening so fast and I got scared. I told him that we'd think about it in few years.

He was really mad I knew English. That's sick. I decided to get stable full time job and graduate from university so it was not the best time for me to start a family. I got a job at travel agency and got to travel a lot as well. It was actually the main thing we kept arguing about. Talking to people, 12 hours shifts. How are you going to raise our children? You should get 9–5 job. You're an idiot and they want you to travel. Better quit before we break up. I didn't even think about a family because it's never been my priority. When I was talking about my feelings, he kept saying I will have to change my mind as soon as I get pregnant. I was scared.

I just wanted to make my friend & lover happy. However, we argued all the time. I was a ruin. And yes, still felt guilty because he started building a house.

He asked me if I wanted to move in with him at his parent's house. That's the next mistake I've made. We were splitting bills, although I was earning half of what he could make in a month. It was fine until he started controlling my finances. New blouse? Your university is so expensive, you better drop it. Holiday? Are you fucked up? I am not going to live like this. If you want to get a tattoo, you can start packing your things even now. You are going to look like a whore. I wish you didn't have a job, so I could provide everything and you would've nothing to say, stupid bitch.

I packed my stuff. I lost a childhood friend. And I got like 5 tattoos.

Living a happy life full of traveling, positive people. Don't let people destroy your energy. If you don't feel like you're going to be a housewife, you probably won't be happy if somebody makes you to be one.

Don't feel guilty if you don't meet someone else's expectations when they don't meet yours.