Yes oils and I have had our battles. I'm not entirely convinced they are all that healthy for us. I go back and forth with this. I like what you said:

right tool and the right ingredients for the job

So true! Yes I do the cooking for my family. We have a "home cooked" meal every night. I find it very important to continue, not only for health, but for connecting the family together. Everyone gathering in the kitchen, the heart of the home.:)