Hi dear,
First post here! Chinese-American woman, 27 F. Growing up, my mom ruled my social life with an iron fist! I was not allowed to have friends at all for the following reasons.

Friends are a bad influence and will make me drink, smoke and do drugs.

Male friends only want to fuck me and take my precious virginity.

White friends are useless and not studious, black friends will steal from me, Filipino friends are low class etc etc.

Best part - even other Chinese friends are bad because Chinese people love dragging others down and if I do well in life, my Chinese friends will no doubt try to ruin it somehow.

Pretty girls are bad because they will outshine me and no guy will want me when he sees a hotter girl hanging out with me.

Anyway, my parents controlled my every move. Emails were monitored, so were cell phones, bags were checked and my dad drove me everywhere I needed to go and picked me up (waiting for me 20-30 min ahead of time to make sure I didn't loiter with friends). I even lived at home for college because I got a full ride to the closest college and they refused to give me their tax returns for FAFSA, so I could not get financial aid.

I eventually moved out for my senior year after working countless on-campus jobs and internships to afford it. I also left the state for my full time job after graduating.

It took me a looong time to be able to move past my stunted social upbringing and learn to date and start making friends. I lost my virginity at 24 with my first bf (now husband) and I made a small group of close friends.