Kindness after pain

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For some, they are kind because life was easy for them, they were just born that way. It is the ones who have been hurt, lied to, left behind, broken in ways that never heal, and yet still refuse to cause harm to others, that you should notice.

It is one of the most difficult things a person can do and I'm still wrapping my mind around how some people I've seen pull this off. After the pain, they probably should have less trust for people and stay away. It's like they took a whole different lesson from the pain and trauma. Because I know that when I'm truly hurting, it is all too easy to shut down, to become cold, to make the decision that people are not worth it and to stay away from everyone.

No one criticizes people who do this. But some do criticize me for that anyways. But most know that people with trauma or past pain already have a tough life. But some regardless don't turn away from a stranger, they do not turn away from other people with their problems, they do not turn away from animals and from everyone they meet, even though people were not kind to them.

That must take a special kind of strength. It is a choice that they make every day, even when it is hard. When I'm remembering my past pain, I'm less sympathetic to my cat, but some are the opposite, they're more sympathetic to others. They channel the pain into affection and not disdain or anger.

We have words for bravery with your body, we say it takes guts or it is brave. But we do not talk about the courage it takes to be open with your heart. The nice people who have pasr pain are stronger than the bully whose excuse for bullying is that they were bullied in the past too.

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