I believe one only falls into this mental trap – which you have described so aptly – if one has a tendency to try to force things. If one wants to achieve one’s goals at any cost, come what may. There is a certain ruthlessness inherent in this, even towards oneself. However, it is by no means a new or complicated fact that yielding, flexibility, adaptation and a change of mindset are often the means to achieving success, even if one has had to deviate from the original plan. In my view, nothing in life is predetermined, but equally, there is always an alternative.