"Contest: Who Deserve To Be In Front Seat- Mother In-law Or Wife?".

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‎It was Saturday, and you had time to stay home. You plan a little hangout with your wife and your mother. At the expected time, everyone was ready. You walk into your car and wait for the ladies (your mother and wife). The 2 walk towards the front door, before you know they started dragging who's going to be sitting on the front. You can only allow one person, who would that be? Your wife or your mother?
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‎This is one simple situation that has sparked many arguments in many houses. While it might appear to be very small, it gives one an idea of just how we think about respect, love, and status in our families. Now, I would like to offer my take on this one issue.
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‎Who do you think should always share the car front seat with the man? Mother-in-law or Wife?
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‎My Take: The Wife Should Sit in Front (Most Times)
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‎You know one thing that we should understand is that before this kind of issue happened, there must have been a miscommunication between the wife and the mother-in-law, in that they feel that everyone must know who they are. On the side of the wife, it can be because she thinks that the man is her husband and that it is entirely right that she should be seated in the front seat in his car. My mother-in-law's mother-in-law, since the man is her son whom she raised, it is right that she should be seated in the front with his son.
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‎Such a kind of problem most of the time occurs if the mother-in-law dislikes the daughter or if the daughter dislikes the mother-in-law. The son or the husband might not even understand the hatred that goes on underground in most cases.
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‎What is your reason for choosing either?
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‎So, personally, I think it should be the wife who sits in the front seat, not because it is my rule, but it is my gesture towards equality. You see, if you and I are married, it means that we're one. Therefore, to suggest that for a wife to sit alongside her husband in the front seat is to imply that it’s not about pride, it is about presence.
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‎But there are exceptions to it. From my point of view, if the mother-in-law is old, or maybe has physical problems, it is considered polite to allow her to sit in the forefront without any doubt. Due to my realization in life, love doesn’t always require “position” but it is expressed in “sacrifice.”
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‎Now, if it were me in that situation, I wouldn't lie it seems we would be using public transport. And they can just go and resolve whatever problems they might have among themselves. For me, it is either we go by public transportation, resolve the problem, or the 2 of them can just sit at the back, and the problem is solved. (Don't take it personally🤣)
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‎Do you think this should be considered as an issue in the family?
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‎Honestly, no. This should not be something to lead to fights, but if so, it is always best to find a way to stop it from continuing. Like I said, problems like these tend to arise because of miscommunications, tension, and expectations that can go on to make even the smallest problems big ones. The actual problem, however, is not who sits in the forefront but rather how we treat each other in the process.
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‎“So I have no place beside my husband” might be the thinking of the feeling, " I no longer matter?”* might be the silent question of a mother who perceives that she has been replaced in the
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‎“It's not about the seat. It's about feeling respected.”
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‎What is your advice to families going through this phase on deciding who should share the car front seat?
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‎I said earlier that most of the time, the husband won't even know that there are issues between his mother and his wife. Resolve that one right there because they all have work to do. I'm not there to place blame on anybody. If they work together, they won't have that kind of problem.
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‎To the husband: As the man of the house, Talk, don’t assume. Not because someone’s face looks happy and you feel they’re OK. If you’re a husband, make both women feel seen and valued.
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‎To the wife: if you’re a wife, understand that his mother was before you, his mother gave birth to him, raised him, took care of him until he was able to stand on his own feet, respect her presence.
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‎The mother-in-law: Sometimes it just seems like somebody out of nowhere just takes over and wants to take your son and your attention from you. But it's also your family, and you're kind of the head of it. If you’re a mother-in-law, do not compete but rather follow love.
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‎“Well, sometimes asking ‘Mom, are you okay back there?’ can ease tension, and sometimes sharing the front seat with one’s wife can indicate maturity rather than lack thereof.”
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‎The front seat doesn't define love, but actions do.
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‎Let Me Hear From You
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‎Well, who would you place in the front seat – your wife or your mother? Have you ever been in or witnessed something like this before? Let’s talk because this may sound like a joke or funny story or movie but for some people, it’s not.
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‎I would like to invite @sadaf02 @kwinberry and @etette to participate in this contest.
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‎Cc;
‎@megareigns
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