Mathilda - Everything or Nothing

Imagine this happening to you...

Mathilda (Tilly) de Doelder, also known as Mathilda Willink, was a multifaceted person, and I've always admired her. It's not easy to rise from nothing and become someone. One thing is clear: she was talented, and perhaps even more so than her ex-husband, the painter Willink, who left behind a whiny piece before his death. Was it about Mathilda, or was it about him? Let's be honest, if you're the idiot who always gives in, if you're the idiot who sells your most cherished paintings to buy clothes, whose fault is that?
Moreover, it was Willink who turned her into a living painting. The makeup she wears is specially created by him and is probably the only one that truly doesn't smudge, and with which she sleeps without difficulty. According to her, it's better for her skin that doesn't get scrubbed and polished. Is she right? Her skin is remarkably clean and smooth. Let's be honest, Wilink was certainly no sweetheart and not famous when he met her. During their years-long relationship (which began practically the day they met, when she was 19), he used her quite a bit and took advantage of her.
How many know about her talents? How she graduated with honors, that she also worked for KLM, that she wasn't lazy and just the most spoiled woman, but handled all his finances, his tax returns, and kept the house in order, while also lining the pockets of many?
In the attached video, you see Mathilda, and her childish voice seems to have nothing in common with her wise answers. She also appears to have a good dose of self-knowledge.
It's okay to find her unsympathetic, but it's okay to ignore her abilities, and that was certainly done in a time when the average woman's only right was behind the kitchen sink.
Anyone who wants a relationship always has to give something. Those who only take cannot build a relationship. Even giving up a relationship comes at a price, or you sacrifice something else (home, hearth, art... perhaps that favorite painting).

Although Mathilda suffered from depression after the divorce (according to her, it was short and intense, and she reacted explosively, but she will never develop a stomach ulcer because of it), she always managed to overcome it herself.

Interestingly, after the divorce was finalized, Mathilda died. She was found dead, just like that, with a bullet in the left side of her head. How can that be suicide if you're right-handed? And then comes the cover-up. The report says suicide, and no further investigation is done (perhaps the easiest way out, given that she said she couldn't live without Willink).

The clothes are by Fong Leng (averaged between 1,500 and 30,000 guilders in the 1970s). The clothes weigh a good 7 kilos or more, and according to Mathilda, it's the strong shoulders that carry the world (and therefore also the dresses).

Willink and Mathilda bought the clothes together; she never shopped alone. Matilda considers the dresses second skin, and for her, they are not just dresses but works of art.

Willink was 40 years older than Mathilda. He said of both her and his first wife, Wilma, that it was a mistake. Mathilda made an interesting comment: "If it takes you so many years to realize that your first marriage was also a mistake, then there's something wrong with you."

In her fit of rage, she smashed everything and cut up the painting of Wilma and herself. That, too, was a fatal blow to his heart, according to Mathilda.Imagine this happening to you...

Mathilda (Tilly) de Doelder, also known as Mathilda Willink, was a multifaceted person, and I've always admired her. At the age of 14 weeks old she was dumped by her mother at an uncle's home.
It's not easy to rise from nothing and become someone. One thing is clear: she was talented, and perhaps even more so than her ex-husband, the painter Willink, who left behind a whiny piece before his death. Was it about Mathilda, or was it about him? Let's be honest, if you're the idiot who always gives in, if you're the idiot who sells your most cherished paintings to buy clothes, whose fault is that?
Moreover, it was Willink who turned her into a living painting. The makeup she wears is specially created by him and is probably the only one that truly doesn't smudge, and with which she sleeps without difficulty. According to her, it's better for her skin that doesn't get scrubbed and polished. Is she right? Her skin is remarkably clean and smooth. Let's be honest, Wilink was certainly no sweetheart and not famous when he met her. During their years-long relationship (which began practically the day they met, when she was 19), he used her quite a bit and took advantage of her.
How many know about her talents? How she graduated with honors, that she also worked for KLM, that she wasn't lazy and just the most spoiled woman, but handled all his finances, his tax returns, and kept the house in order, while also lining the pockets of many?
In the attached video, you see Mathilda, and her childish voice seems to have nothing in common with her wise answers. She also appears to have a good dose of self-knowledge.
It's okay to find her unsympathetic, but it's okay to ignore her abilities, and that was certainly done in a time when the average woman's only right was behind the kitchen sink.
Anyone who wants a relationship always has to give something. Those who only take cannot build a relationship. Even giving up a relationship comes at a price, or you sacrifice something else (home, hearth, art... perhaps that favorite painting).

Although Mathilda suffered from depression after the divorce (according to her, it was short and intense, and she reacted explosively, but she will never develop a stomach ulcer because of it), she always managed to overcome it herself.

Interestingly, after the divorce was finalized, Mathilda died. She was found dead, just like that, with a bullet in the left side of her head. How can that be suicide if you're right-handed? And then comes the cover-up. The report says suicide, and no further investigation is done (perhaps the easiest way out, given that she said she couldn't live without Willink).

The clothes are by Fong Leng (averaged between 1,500 and 30,000 guilders in the 1970s). The clothes weigh a good 7 kilos or more, and according to Mathilda, it's the strong shoulders that carry the world (and therefore also the dresses).

Willink and Mathilda bought the clothes together; she never shopped alone. Matilda considers the dresses her second skin, and for her, they are not just dresses but works of art.

Willink was 40 years older than Mathilda. He said of both her and his first wife, Wilma, that it was a mistake. Mathilda made an interesting comment: "If it takes you so many years to realise that your first marriage was also a mistake, then there's something wrong with you."

In her fit of rage, she smashed everything and cut up the painting of Wilma and herself. That, too, was a fatal blow to his heart, according to Mathilda. What no one seems to remember is that Mathilda worked at the KLM to support Willink and herself since Willink didn't make an income.

^22.11.25