The May contest #1 by sduttaskitchen: Soul select soulmates

Yes I strongly believe that a soul, that is, a person, can find its soulmate.
Firstly, soul in this context is not just a physical person. It's how person thinks and view their environment; why they act the way they do as a result of their upbringing and surroundings.

When selecting a soulmate, two people are involved. They grew up with different backgrounds: maybe different religions, tribes, languages and more. To be true soulmates, their taste, likes and dislikes, goals, and purpose in life, don't have to be same. These differences can be acceptable through understanding.

I say this because :

• They cannot like the same things, they will have different dislikes.
• Their goals may be different, but through love they try to adjust and match their expectations.

When two people choose understanding over similarity, they become compatible for a lifetime journey as soulmates.

When love start, it looks so perfect, that others get jealous. They wish they had that kind of relationship. Unfortunately they don't end up as a couple.

What went wrong with what looked so perfect?

These are the factors and insights that contribute to breakdown in relationships that initially look good and perfect:

• Poor communication: avoiding deep conversations and not certain about what they want.

• Insecurity: when a partner is not satisfied; starts nagging, checking their partner's phone, getting jealous of friends.

• Lack of team work: one person always expect a partner to sort all bills. If not there, hurtful words come.

• No empathy: always busy to consider partner's feelings, emotions become one-sided.

• Perfectionist: never apologize, always gets defensive and shifts blames on partner to maintain their always right image.

If you say you love someone, there're things you must do to show you love the person, not just by saying"I love you"
These are the key fundamental principles: Communication, respect and love. I put them in this order because love is built from communication, then comes respect and it ends in love.

Communication is fundamental too. It grows a healthy relationship. Communication solves resentment caused by imperfection and fixes issues that may lead to a breakdown.

For example: Lets say partners comes from different tribes, and they often misunderstands each other because of it. If they don't talk things out, it may likely break the relationship.
At first, communication brought them together in love, regardless of their tribe. But without frequent communication on their tribe issues. The love can't grow further.

Respect is another fundamental that both partners must uphold. It should be guided by the Golden Rule:

"How you want to be treated by others, do same with others"

This respect can't be one-sided, it must be shared. In a relationship, respect is both given and received by both partners.

Love can't be left out. Love they say, "bears all things" When the both partners understands they're imperfect and expect mistakes from each other, they can prepare on how to handle the situation when the surface. When these happen, love is truly in the picture.

And this is what I call "soul select soulmate."

I place my invite to @emishael60, @josepha and @endygraphics