SEC17/W2| While making decisions, what do you prefer to follow: heart or mind? INSTINCT

I am an introvert meaning I am a thinker and next to that, I think fast. My mind is always busy even if I am asleep. I was taught that only facts count and feelings do not matter. Does this make me a realist or practical?

Is an introvert, someone who can oversee what will happen and foresee the outcome of a decision, a doom thinker, a pessimist if he speaks out, or is this person a realist?
It all depends on the situation and whom he meets. Introverts are rarely the people liked if just met. These thinkers do not attract attention and don't feel the urge to be at the centre of attention. They are observers.

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Does this mean an observer doesn't act, he is a 'nerd' or delegates tasks to be done?
Of course not. There are as many people as there are decisions to make. Smaller and bigger ones, decisions which are not worth fighting for and we can let slide off. There are also decisions violating our norms, values, ideas, and plans, threatening us or those dear to us. They can be worth the fight.
How to act depends on more than one factor and who is involved. There are times it's better to wait since I learned 80% of all "problems" solve themselves meaning there's no need to decide what to do.

It's not easy to set boundaries especially if family, friends and society are manipulative which most are. Each person is vulnerable to threats, not being liked or kicked out by the family, church or employer just for speaking out. So we tiptoe and lie, swallow the hurt while we grow more and more lonely because we forget about ourselves. Our soul is chained or hidden in a safe because being us is never permitted.

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Can the heart speak out loud?
Are we still allowed to care and offer a hand or shoulder to cry on? It's better not to if you want to be liked, be successful and not be called a stupid, naive idiot used by a parasite or scammer.

You cannot think, said the not too smart and too handy handyman as I told him how to solve the issue, it is because you are a woman.

I am not oversensitive. I learned that tears do not solve anything and crying never made me feel better, let alone relieve me. But I will not tolerate people disrespecting me (especially not by people I pay), let me or my family be threatened and I fight injustice if I see it.

Is it the heart or the mind that speaks?
To me, it is both since every decision is a mix but if I can I let my instinct talk, which is the most ignored voice and the only one who knows what is good for me.
Each time I let the mind (= reason, always someone else's) decide it only gives me a lot of trouble. So I prefer to follow my instinct, not the mind and not the heart, it's the only one I can trust and it never been wrong, so this is my advice.

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