Incredible India Monthly Contest of January #2: Protective vs. Possessive!

In both the attachment styles, there were two facts related to them seemed to be the same at the first view but different meaning actually: protectiveness and possessiveness. While they both stem from caring, they can have diametrically opposite outcomes and directions.
When “P” and “P” these two “Ps” come to mind, I can tell you that there is also a very thin line between healthy love and stifling love.

Protectiveness is a sincere inclination to shield the person we love from harm, from errors, or from anything that might harm them. Protectiveness is generally associated with understanding, good communication, and respect for one’s personal space. Rather than telling you what to do—a particular flaw of pontificators—a shielding person says things like “Watch out for this,” “Here’s some help,” and “Think about these other options.”

In contrast, possessiveness is much more likely to be triggered when fear starts to emerge. Fear to lose, fеar to compete, fear to be irrelevant. And this is where the need to control is born. Protectivity means not “take it or leave it” possessiveness, but the love of touching and holding. Partners facing such issues can find themselves feeling surveilled, their interactions hemmed in, and at times, losing the liberty to express themselves.

The possessiveness in a relationship can arise from a number of factors. One is low self-esteem. Someone who is insecure tends to be fearful of being abandoned. In addition, previous experiences (like betrayal) can also influence possessiveness as a coping mechanism. Another factor is emotional dependence, when your happiness hinges on just one person.

I think that if you look at just about any close relationship, “Ps” that can be involved in the relationship On both sides of the equation are both those two “Ps.” Bs (and Rs) are affected by these two “Ps” as we’ve discussed Those two “Ps” are the “protectiveness” and “possessiveness.” However, the difference is in degree and in control.

A little bit of protectiveness has many bright sides, including that it lets you know someone cares about you, makes you feel safe, and makes you feel valued. It tightens the emotional bonds and speaks of sincere interest in one another.

Yet when protectiveness is rampant, it can become possessiveness. This is the downside. Details, over-possessiveness and control can create arguments and upsetting feelings. It’s just that a relationship that ought to be a home can instead be a tiny, exhausting room.

Protectiveness and possessiveness come from the same root—love—but they grow till they’re very different. Healthy love doesn’t shackle, it just you feel secure WITHOUT feeling as if you are locked out of the world. That’s the balance we need to find in every meaningful relationship.

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