Do You Have a Stubborn or Naughty Child? Do These 8 Easy Tips To Deal With It

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With honesty, a sincere and caring heart, I know exactly what is going on in the field, there are many in every family, say they have 5 or 6 children. But among the 5 or 6 children there is 1 child who is stubborn or naughty and often denies what we say. It's a normal thing that happens to every single family. I think he was born a keeper in that family. Don't lose to always love him. So, if we as parents have 1 child who is very stubborn, it's certainly not easy for every parent to educate a child who is stubborn or likes to fight. When, for example, a child is lazy to bathe, a child has difficulty eating, or escapes the habit of taking a nap, it may make parents vent their emotions in anger. In fact, the most effective way to deal with a stubborn child is not by getting angry or yelling at the child, but rather by giving your full attention.

In this case, I would like to first identify the cause of stubborn and rebellious children. What I know and according to the understanding that I have learned, is that stubbornness is a form of rejection of something that is against the will, not least in the developmental period of children starting from 6-7-8-9 years. There are many developments that children go through at this age, including cognitive development, and + social development of children, children's physical development, to children's emotional development.

So, in this case, one part of emotional development that you need to apply to your child is to teach them if they are stubborn. A stubborn child, whether it's a girl or a boy, tends to be very sensitive and cannot be persuaded by those around him. Say what often happens in this case because they want their request to be immediately granted or fulfilled.

There is also another aspect, stubbornness and unruly is actually a way for your child to learn about freedom and the limits of acceptable and unacceptable behavior. When your little one does something, like he doesn't want to take a shower or doesn't want to sleep, he'll see how you react. Well you need to know! When children turn into stubborn and rebellious behavior, it could be because they see the same example. Therefore, you should be careful when acting in front of your little one because children are very easy to imitate the people around them.

In addition there may also be, stubborn children tend to seek attention from others. This condition is the same as with tantrums, but stubborn children often throw tantrums to get attention. Although it is a natural part of a child's growth and development, stubbornness should not be allowed to continue until he is an adult. That's why, try us as your parents to apply the way of educating the stubborn child.

This time I will peel to detail a very detailed explanation for you how to educate a child who is naughty or stubborn. Honestly, without covering anything up, dealing with a stubborn child does require more patience than usual, but it doesn't need to be by pulling the sound through the veins.you look let alone hit it and pinch it. For this version that I have tried to design in the knowledge that I have studied, one way to deal with stubborn children is to respond to their emotional outbursts. Wait! Wait! This does not mean you give up with every request your little one. You can be firm and show your affection towards him.

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Everything is for parents, in educating children who are naughty or stubborn and like to fight without you having to be angry with him, listen, and pay attention to my version, here are 8 effective ways to educate him :

The first : I encourage you to listen to the opinion and wishes of the little one. You need to know that you are a parent, that communication with children is the most important thing as a way to deal with stubborn children's attitudes. However, communication between children and parents must go both ways. If you want your child to listen to you, you have to be willing to listen first. Don't and don't do it, if you don't do anything, you immediately forbid him to stay up late, the child will tend to argue and get angry. Because stubborn children tend to have strong opinions and like to argue for the sake of their wishes being fulfilled. You need to remember that children can become stubborn when they feel that they are no longer being heard by others. So, try to approach your little one and listen to what he wants. This will make him feel important and calmer without fighting back.

The second : You as a parent should not force it. When you tend to force a child to do something, usually the child will rebel and do what they shouldn't do. This is included in the form of opposition, one of the common characteristics of stubborn children. For example, you force your child to stop playing with gadgets and go to bed because the child is already addicted to gadgets. Actually, educating a stubborn child in this way will not help, in fact it will trigger resistance from the little one. It should be observed on the contrary, when you show attention to what your child is watching, your little one will give a certain response and feel more comfortable. Your child will feel that his parents are giving him attention. Building a relationship with a stubborn child is expected to melt the little one's heart so that he becomes more obedient.

The three : You as a parent should give your child a choice And face it calmly. Basically, kids have their own way of thinking and don't like being told what to do. For example, you tell your little one to sleep while he is watching TV. The answer you may hear is the word for sure (no). This is the same as if you give a toy that your little one doesn't like, then the answer will probably be the same. You need to remember how to educate this stubborn child, you can use special tricks by giving him choices. For example, when you want your little one to sleep and take him off the TV, try giving your little one the choice of which story book he would choose to tell a story before bed. Try to distract your little one with interesting stories that he can choose from. If your child still refuses, stay calm while repeating the same thing as much as possible. But remember, you must remain calm and not show emotions. Over time, your little one might just melt and follow your wishes.

In terms of what you needIf you understand what happened above, don't forget to always face it calmly. Because the main key in educating and dealing with stubborn children is to be calm and patient. If you tend to get angry or yell at you, your attitude will only make things worse and even make your little one fight back even more. Do various activities that can help you calm down, such as meditation, exercise, listening to music, or something else. If you like to play music at home, this can also affect your little one's mood to be calmer and far from good.

Fourth : You have to let the child learn from his experience. Children are often difficult to manage. Prohibiting a child through words sometimes doesn't quite work. How to educate a stubborn child can be done by giving him a little freedom. Yes, the goal is very clear so that they can understand what you want to convey through experience. This method will provide an important lesson in educating a stubborn child so that he does not repeat the same thing. It really needs rules to be able to apply how to discipline a child to teach him the consequences of good or bad behavior he does. For example, you may not let your child play in the water because it will slip, but your child may have a hard time listening. If you have told your child many times but the child is stubborn, he will realize the reason you forbade him when he has experienced the reward may be because of a fall or slip.

The fifth : you have to invite your little one to work together or invite discussion. So in this case instead of telling your little one to do something, it would be better if you invite your little one to work together. For example, use good words, (let's do it together), or (how about we try it together) you can also take it in other sentences that seem like telling others.

Eh, wait a minute, don't forget to invite you to discuss. Sometimes, you need to negotiate or bargain with your little one. This shows that you are not refusing your child's request immediately, but are giving them consideration that will train them to make good decisions. Take for example, your child still does not want to sleep even though you have asked nicely. So, the right way is not by forcing him to sleep immediately, but by giving consideration. Ask him when he starts wanting to sleep and ask him why. After that, you can invite him to discuss and determine the sleeping hours that are suitable for you and your little one. Maybe you as a parent can understand what I'm saying. So as a parent, try to be a friend of your child so that they feel comfortable.

The sixth : you as a parent must understand the child's way of thinking. The way to deal with stubborn children is to try to understand the child's point of view and way of thinking. So I need to explain and I ask you as a parent. Do you know how the child feels? Is the child stressed, scared, or sad?

So in this case you need to pay attention to the more you know your child, the better the way you deal with your little one, including educating his stubborn nature. For example, if your child doesn't want to do his homework, don't yell and scold the child or pinch him. Because, the child may find it difficult to complete the task. Yes, the result may be, your little one will become grumpy and increasingly reluctant to do their work.

In this case you as a parent instead of getting angry, help your little one complete the task with you. Insert a break for 5 to 10 minutes so that your little one is not too stressed in doing the task.

The seventh: you as a parent must and must create a pleasant environment at home. What I do know is that children are good learners as well as excellent imitators. So, try to educate stubborn children by creating a fun environment and setting a good example. Because they learn through what they see and experience every day. If they often see their parents always fighting, chances are they will imitate it when they grow up, especially when there is violence against children. Therefore, create a pleasant environment in the house so that your little one feels more calm and comfortable. Peace in the house can also make the child's mood more stable, thereby reducing stubbornness in children.

The eighth : you as parents to always teach children to behave well. Do not occasionally educate a stubborn child by pinching or acting rudely. Because again, this will be absorbed in his memory and may be done in the future. Therefore, show good behavior in front of your little one so that he will be nice to you too. + don't forget to give praise after your little one has done/completed your command well. Say, make a chart and stick a star on it when your little one successfully completes a task. In addition, you can also give him certain gifts to strengthen your little one's positive behavior. Remember and you need to remember no matter how hard the child's attitude, believe that you are able to overcome it with a calm attitude.
In this way, your stubborn child will turn into a more disciplined and obedient child.

So what I can share about 8 easy tips for dealing with stubborn or naughty children and hopefully useful.

Thank you for reading. Stay safe and Stay Healthy. Health is Wealth.

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@aronexxon