FOR COUPLES LIVING APART
I want to address an issue in marriage that I think it's quite very important.
There are married who live apart because of job or in search of better opportunities in distant land or foreign countries.
I remember the case of a guy who relocated abroad while his wife remained in Nigeria. It was a mutual agreement for him to go over to work and make enough money to relocate her and their only son.
He was away for a few years before his first visit, after which he started visiting annually for two weeks during the Christmas festive period.
While he was away, he recycled casual sex partners who are aware of his marital status. The wife too, when she grew horny to her elastic strain, she became courteous to a guy flirting with her.
They started having sex secretly. But after every sexual experience, she felt guilty about it and wanted it to stop, but she couldn't. So one day, he called her husband and told him to either return to Nigeria or relocate them immediately.
He was upset and yelled at her. Being an African woman, she couldn't tell him how sexually aroused she felt most times in his absence.
So one day, she told her family she doesn't want the marriage anymore. Everyone appealed to her conscience but she refused.
The marriage collapsed and she moved on to date her secret lover. But the guy didn't want something serious with her. They broke up and she became upset with life.
If you are in a situation where you live away from your wife, don't be apart beyond the elasticity of your self-control.
1 Corinthians 7:5 states clearly that if husband and wife would stay away from sex because of fasting and prayer, they should come together quickly so that Satan does not tempt their lack of self-control.
The idea of that scripture is, don't stay away from each other beyond the strength of your discipline. You and your spouse need to be aware of each other's strength.
When a husband and wife who are distance away from each other desire to have each other in their arms but cannot, it is a proof that they are already stretched beyond the elasticity of their self-control.
In other words, Satan is already using their crave for each other to tempt them.
One of the responsibilities of marriage is sex, emotional support, etc. Meaning, husband and wife must be physically available for each other.
If you are a Christian man or woman living away from your spouse, work on living together so that Satan does not use the personal crave and longing for each other to tempt you into sin.
Everyone does not have the same level of discipline to abstain from sex for a long time. I am specifically talking to those who live abroad.
If your marriage is bridged by what I'm sharing here, it is not just because the devil is already taking advantage of your situation, you too are to blame for lack of wisdom.