THE INGREDIENT FOR A GOOD MARRIAGE

To have a good marriage, you need Word seminars. In other words, you need to study the Word for yourself.

It is not marriage seminar or Valentine's day love event or talkshow where sex, romance and love are discussed that makes people better spouses. No.

The origin of marriage and love is God's Word. So to understand marriage, what you need is not marriage seminar. You need the whole counsel of God's Word.

Am I discouraging people from singles and married meetings? No. But such meetings are insufficient to make anyone a good spouse.

Personally, I cannot remember all I was taught during my marriage class when I wanted to get married to Victoria, but I'm aware of God's Word that I study to become a better Christian.

If your personality is not changed by God's word, it doesn't matter the number of marriage seminars that you attend, they will never change who you are.

It takes two good Christians to run a successful union. Meaning, if the both of you apply the principles of God's Word correctly, the union will always stand the test of time.

One of the challenges in most Christian marriages is that the parties in it do not know how to apply God's word in their union. I will give a brief example.

For instance, I've heard ladies say something like, "It's very easy to submit to a man when he knows how to love..." This sounds logical, isn't it? But it's not God's Word.

In God's Word, both love and submission are mutually exclusive instructions to husband and wife. In other words, you don't submit because he first loved you. No. Also, as a man, you don't have to love your wife because she's submissive to you.

God specifically instructs us to love or submit in exclusion to the other person's part. Do your part without a recourse to whether the other person did his or hers.

Social media ideas and inventions have insidiously crept into so many Christian homes and wrecked havoc on the union. Women are saying that the reason they are obstinately resistant to their husband is because he's not romantic, caring and loving.

Husbands are saying that because their wife is rude and stubborn, they won't love her. These issues are so because most Christians are not very conversant with their Bible. They are running their union on secular ideologies.

Unfortunately, these worldly ideas are what people go to learn from so-called Christian singles and married meetings. Oftentimes, when people go for such meetings, the emphasis and topics of discussion are usually sex, styles, romance and everything that has to do with bed.

They are never taught to define the focus of their union and then run it on structures. If you ask so many Christians what the primary focus of their union is, they won't have what to say to you. Why?

The average Christian today think of marriage like the people of the world, which is – sex, styles, etc.

Am I preaching against sex in marriage? No. The emphasis of my discourse is, to have a good marriage you need to be conversant with God's word and apply it in your marriage.

Singles and married conference will never get the job done for you.