Tips for those who are planning to get marriage

I was discussing with someone, and she asked, "If your daughter grows up, can you allow her to marry someone like their father?" Immediately I said yes, yes, and yes. I told her that it's my prayer that they should marry someone like their father but in a richer version. She then asked again, "What if he is not rich but he is exactly like your husband, and there is another man too that is rich but is not like your husband? Who will you advise her to choose?"

Well, I paused for some seconds; it was hard to answer. I told her I will advise her to pause, work, and save money. Invest and be financially stable, the same with the man, before they go or continue their marriage plan. The reason for this response is that I got married to a good man, a rare gem, every woman's dream.

Yes, every woman needs a man that will pamper them, treat them like a queen, love and respect them, and put them first. A man that is so intentional about the one he loves, and that is what God gave me, an understanding husband. I've seen and experienced the joy and fulfillment that come when you have money, and I've also experienced the pain that lack of money causes in a relationship or family, and I've come to realize that love alone is not enough to sustain relationships, especially when kids come in, but don't trade love for money because you will cry bitterly.

It's easier to make money when you are alone than when you have a family. When you are alone there are certain jobs you can do; you can travel to any location and find your way easily, and it will be easy to save money and invest in things because you have fewer responsibilities, but once you are married your chances reduce from 100 to 90 or 80, and when you start having kids it reduces from 90 to 60 or 50 because your responsibility increases.

You now have people that look up to you, which is worse if you don't have a supportive partner. If I had known this or someone had told me, probably, I would have paused and built a financial legacy before considering marriage. Note: I don't regret getting married to my hubby because he is a good man, but with money we would have been perfect. Though we are getting there slowly. In our 5 years of relationship, the misunderstandings we sometimes have are as a result of money.

If my husband was not a good man, it would have been more difficult to endure or sail through, but because he is a rare gem, an understanding husband who is humble, it makes it easy to walk together. Yes, my husband gave me wings to fly, and he is so supportive. Not like that with everyone.

The point love alone is not*enough to sustain marriage, just as money alone is not enough to sustain a relationship; the two have to be balanced.

.Don't trade love for riches because when there is no love, you won't be able to enjoy the abundance of money, just as love suffers when there is no money. But the disadvantage of love over money is that even when there is no money, with true love, it is easier to cope or sail through.

. Be financially capable or stable before going into marriage. This is the lesson I will pass on to my kids.