Trust Wisely: Not Every Friend Is in Your Corner

Have you ever had a friend that is insanely jealous about you, a friend that, when you tell them about your success, they're not happy for you, a friend that wants you to win but not as much as them. That's weird though, because people like this don't see you as a friend. Instead, they see you as a competition.

Be careful who you ask to advocate for you. Be mindful who you ask to go bat for you. By the way, am Promise😊 and I go by the name @obikay on Steemit.

A few months ago, a friend of mine reached out to me about a job that he was faced with hiring for his team and someone who worked pretty closely with him reached out to him about a referral who was also a friend. This person specifically carved out time with my friend to speak about the other friend. On the call, this man said to my friend, hey, listen, my friend ask me to refer him for this job, but I don't think that you should hire him. This man proceeded to talk crap about his so called friend for almost an hour. How he wasn't fit and all that. He then proceeded to say that if this man, his friend, was hired, it would just be a big loss.

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Now, we all know that there are three sides to every story. Your side, my side and the truth somewhere in the middle. And we would never know what actually happened between these two people. Although through some analyzing, we found out that there were definitely some elements of sabotage. And it was clear that this man doesn't want to share where he worked with his friend. And in that case, why not just say to your friend, I don't feel comfortable referring you. Why build up a whole case against your friend? I mean, who needs enemies when you have a friend like that. What actually fascinates me was the level of trust that the other party had in his so called friend to ask him to speak for him on something that could have changed his life.

I think the word friend doesn't carry as much weight as it should sometimes. The reality is that some people don't want to share the source of their success, breakthroughs or their blessings. That is the reality of human behaviour we can not change.

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Paying attention to who you share with, pausing to take note and reading the energy in the room when you're with your friend no matter how you have known them, matters. This isn't paranoia, it's about being fully present. That man who asked his friend to refer him for that job, will never know what his friend did.

A real friend is one;

• Always present for you and wants you to win.

• Don't keep records of wrongs, always ready to support and stand by you.

• Who would not make you feel like you have to chase them to keep a friendship.

• A real friend will never view you as a competition.

If you lack discernment, if you lack presence and you don't move with and in presence, you will miss the truth that is right in front of you.